I Googled the word grief because I wanted to see if the definition included the fact that it comes in waves. There was no mention of that.
Grief, noun= deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone’s death.
“she was overcome with grief”.
synonyms: sorrow, misery, sadness, anguish, pain, distress, heartache, heartbreak, agony, torment, affliction, suffering, woe, desolation, dejection, despair; mourning, mournfulness, bereavement, lamentation.
But if you have suffered any type of grief, you know it definitely comes and goes like the waves of the ocean.
The thing about grief is that although it never goes away, with time, we learn how to live with it. And we can even learn how to manage through it in a healthy way. Managing grief does not mean you ignore it, it means that you live your best most joyful, relevant, and fruitful life despite the grief; instead of becoming stuck in the grieving pattern.
You were not born to live a stuck life. No one sets out to get stuck, but it happens, and then you wonder how to get out. How do you get out of the grieving pattern? The first step is to want to get out. You may not necessarily want to forget your loss, but you should want to live that joyful, relevant, and fruitful life despite the loss. Wanting to is half the battle.
If you are grieving today due to miscarriage, please accept my deepest condolences. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process. It is normal to do so:
And although grieving does not happen in a straight line, and you may find yourself circling back to or through one of the items on the list, be patient with yourself. Go through the steps, but know that you want your end result to be that you will live that fruitful, relevant, and joyful life.
Make the decision to manage your grief by recognizing it and then committing to yourself that you will be OK. You will make it.
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