Hello everyone! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world. Civilla Morgan here! I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.
Well, we have a special guest today!
Christy Jordan is a certified addictions professional and mental health counselor with over 10 years experiencing working with individuals, families, and couples. Her focus is helping others find hope to overcome life’s obstacles and creating a life without bondage whether that is in their relationships or as individuals. She provided office and online sessions based on clients needs working with clients internationally and locally. Her website is http://www.findinghopetoday.com where you may contact her directly, or find more information on her experience and expertise.
Well, let’s jump into the questions!
1)My question for the therapist is about intimacy in marriage. Now that my husband and I are working on accepting our childlessness, it feels like intimacy is no longer a priority. I sometimes feel like he finds other things (work, hobbies) to keep himself occupied. I understand that this may be part of the grief process but my question is… as a couple, how do we keep the intimacy and communication alive in the marriage while we adjust/ accept our CNBC status?
2a) Is when as a couple you get to the point of realizing it really is not going to happen and “you are an empty nester without ever being a nester” how do you keep it all alive?
2b) How does a couple transition into the “new and different dreams”? Is it just easier said than done?
3) How do you let go of any resentment towards yourself because you are the reason as a couple there are no kids.
4) Another question from one of the group members: Can you talk to us about how legacy looks for the childless not by choice woman, man, couple?
4a) Can you talk about the consideration for divorce when a spouse refuses to consider adoption?
5a) How do you stop thinking if there will be anyone to take care of you?
5b) Will you ever find lasting peace with your CNBC journey?
Christy’s contact information:
Books and other resources recommended by Christy:
‘The Bondage Breaker’, by Neil T. Anderson
‘Communication, Sex, Money’-Edwin Louis Cole
‘Boundaries in Marriage–(great for communication strategies), by Dr. Henry Cloud
Dale Partridge has a great blog and teachings on purpose and legacy
Thought Redirection Techniques (these are third party websites, and in no way connected with the Childless not by Choice platform. These sites are listed here solely to help you find additional assistance in mindset and thought process on your childless not by choice journey.)
‘Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.’–Philippians 4:8.
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‘To recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.’
Spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life’.