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Episode 175–Father’s Day and Men’s Health

Hello, and welcome to episode 175 of the Childless Not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless women and men not by choice worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, and fulfilled lives, childless by choice.

Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!

What is today’s show about?

Father’s Day and Men’s Health

 

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Body of episode:

  • FATHER’S DAY

  • MEN’S HEALTH

 

 

So, well before President Biden’s prostate cancer diagnosis, I had planned on discussing men’s health for this year’s Father’s Day episode. In particular, I wanted to discuss causes of male childlessness, such as Azoospermia.

I’ve decided to put links in the show notes in regards to Azoospermia. Please check out the links for further information.

The basic definition of Azoospermia per The Cleveland Clinic website is:

‘Azoospermia means there’s no sperm in your ejaculate. Its causes include a blockage along the reproductive tract, hormonal problems, ejaculation problems or issues with testicular structure or function. Many causes are treatable. For other causes, it may be possible to retrieve live sperm to be used in assisted reproductive techniques like IVF.‘

 

As I think back through my episodes, I don’t believe I’ve ever discussed men’s health, or medical reasons men may be childless.

We’ve discussed fibroids, PCOS, endometriosis, adenomyosis, miscarriage, running out of time, aka the biological clock, MRKH, etc.

But I’ve never gone into much detail regarding issues surrounding the causes of childlessness in men.

 

I have had the great opportunity to interview several men about their experiences with childlessness, including how they have dealt with it. I will put links in the show notes on interviews I have conducted over the years with these wonderful men. Be sure to take a listen!

 

I also believe male childlessness is not as openly discussed as female childlessness because men and their spouses may find the issue embarrassing, shocking to their ego in a different way than a woman may feel about her childlessness, or maybe in much the same way.  In either case, there can be emotional and mental pain.

 

Some of the things that can cause infertility in men include:

 

AI Overview

Male infertility can be caused by a variety of factors, including problems with sperm production or quality, hormonal imbalances, genetic disorders, infections, and environmental factors. Additionally, lifestyle choices like smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, and certain drug use can also contribute to infertility.

Here’s a more detailed look at some of the key causes:

1. Sperm Problems:

  • Low sperm count (oligospermia): A low number of sperm in the ejaculate.

  • Absent sperm (azoospermia): No sperm in the ejaculate.

  • Poor sperm motility: Sperm are unable to swim properly.

  • Abnormal sperm morphology: Sperm are abnormally shaped, making it difficult for them to fertilize an egg.

2. Hormonal Imbalances:

  • Reduced testosterone: Low levels of testosterone can affect sperm production.

  • Hyperprolactinemia: Elevated levels of prolactin can interfere with sperm production.

  • Hormonal disorders affecting the pituitary gland or hypothalamus: These glands regulate hormone production.

3. Genetic Disorders:

4. Infections and Inflammation:

  • Epididymitis: Inflammation of the epididymis, the tube that carries sperm from the testicles.

  • Orchitis: Inflammation of the testicles.

  • STIs: Sexually transmitted infections like gonorrhea or chlamydia can cause inflammation and damage to the reproductive organs.

5. Environmental and Lifestyle Factors:

  • Smoking: Smoking can reduce sperm count and quality.

  • Alcohol consumption: Excessive alcohol use can lower testosterone levels and affect sperm production.

  • Certain drug use: Anabolic steroids and other drugs can negatively impact sperm production.

  • Exposure to toxins or chemicals: Exposure to certain toxins, like pesticides, can affect fertility.

  • Obesity: Being overweight or obese can impact sperm quality.

6. Medical Conditions:

  • Diabetes: Diabetes can affect sperm production and quality.

  • Kidney failure: Kidney failure can also impact sperm production.

  • Cystic fibrosis: A genetic disorder that can cause blocked reproductive ducts.

  • Autoimmune diseases: Some autoimmune diseases can attack sperm.

7. Other Factors:

  • Varicocele: Enlarged veins in the scrotum, which can raise testicular temperature and affect sperm production.

  • Testicular trauma: Injury to the testicles can damage sperm production.

  • Previous cancer treatment: Chemotherapy and radiation therapy can affect sperm production.

  • Undescended testicles: Testicles that don’t descend into the scrotum.

  • Blockages or absences of tubes: Blockages in the reproductive tract can prevent sperm from being released.

This is for informational purposes only. For medical advice or diagnosis, consult a professional. AI responses may include mistakes. Learn more

 

 

  • Whether you have children or not, your health is important. Be sure to go to all of your check-ups, especially if there is a family history of health issues. Get checked, don’t wait.

 

  • Be OK with advocating for yourself. The healthcare industry may say no, you are too young for a particular test. But if you want that test, be insistent. Keep in mind that if your insurance does not cover the test because you are not of a certain age or whatever their parameters are, you may have to pay out of pocket.

 

  • Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful men out there who do the work of raising great people for this world.

  • Happy Father’s Day to those of you who did not birth children, but are contributing to a child’s life in beautiful and lasting ways.

 

 

Research links:

 

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15441-azoospermia

 

Articles/links of interest:

https://ifstudies.org/blog/pronatalism-is-not-popular-yet

 

Episode links to conversations with men:

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-143-the-things-men-talk-about-my-conversation-with-dr-robin-hadley/

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-116-my-conversation-with-dave-jackson/

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-141-downriver-nomad-my-conversation-with-rob-hutchings/

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-130-about-fathers-day-and-childlessness/

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-57-men-men-men-men-3/

 

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Episode 163–Father’s Day

Hello, and welcome to episode 163 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.

Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!

What is today’s show about?

Father’s Day

 

Thank you Patreon contributors:

I want to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform every month, my Patreon Contributors.

Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!

If you still need to become a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!

If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com.

Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!

https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice

 

Questions or comments? Contact me at:

 

Email: Info@civillamorgan.com

 

                                               Or

Visit the website at http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.

 

 

Articles/links of interest:

 

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-160-praying-through-infertility-my-conversation-with-sheridan-voysey/

 

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-143-the-things-men-talk-about-my-conversation-with-dr-robin-hadley/

 

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-130-about-fathers-day-and-childlessness/

 

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-72-male-and-childless-not-by-choice-my-interview-with-dr-robin-hadley/

 

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-141-downriver-nomad-my-conversation-with-rob-hutchings/

 

 

Special thank you to:

All of the wonderful men who have shared their childless not by choice journey with us, and the world.

 

 

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Episode 141–Downriver Nomad, my Conversation with Rob Hutchings

Intro:

Hello, and welcome to episode 141 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.  
Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  

 

What is today’s show about?

Rob Hutchings: ‘Downriver Nomad–A Triathlete’s Adventures and Adversities Into The Rapids’ 

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Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     

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Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!

 
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Intro (for guest episodes):

Rob’s intro

Triathlete and marathon swimmer, Rob Hutchings takes us on a whirlwind journey from triathlons and his first marathon swim in his home country of Canada, to Ironman competitions across the pond. Then down under to Australia and New Zealand where he embarked on marathon adventures off the beaten track, on land, and in the water, which led to his biggest challenge – an unprecedented attempt at swimming the turbulent 256 km Clutha River.

In Downriver Nomad, Rob shares his story of adventures and adversities not only in the water, on the racecourse, and off the beaten track, but also his struggles with an alcoholic father and his own unsuccessful path to fatherhood.

His is a story of humor, heartbreak, and challenges that will inspire the absolute beginner in adventure sports to the seasoned endurance athlete. Join Rob on his nomadic adventures in triathlon, marathon swimming, and adventure sports, packed with hairpin bends, whirlpools, rock dodging, and white-water rapids.

Body of episode:

Questions for Rob Hutchings: 

‘Downriver Nomad–A Triathlete’s Adventures and Adversities Into The Rapids’ 

  • I thoroughly enjoyed your book and how you were able to combine your infertility journey with your passion for triathlon. It was beautifully done.
  • Tell us a little about the Australian adoption process, and how it is the way it is due to the history of ‘The Stolen Generation.’ (Pg 167)
  • So because of the Stolen Generation issue, Thailand is suggested. The process was harrowing! Then, not to give away too much of the book, you were advised to try adopting from Colombia (pg 169…). The whole process must have been more than stressful?
  • Those unsolicited questions and suggestions. My goodness, a number of years ago I interviewed the founder of Waiting Wombs. She is out of Kenya. As I read some of the suggestions you all were given to try to have a baby, I thought back to that episode. It occurred to me that suggestions, unsolicited suggestions are global! How did you and your wife deal with this?  (Pg 147)
  • That trick question on the psych eval (pg 171). That was terrible! Every time I think about the grilling potential adoptive parents go through, I think about people who have kids naturally. They go through nothing. I’m not saying there shouldn’t be some type of process or protection of the children, but I find the process a little extreme, outside of any cultural history of abuse, as we discussed in The Stolen generation issue earlier.  How did you make sense of the grilling, of not being believed?
  • I found it interesting how you discuss in the book, that couples wait in different ways, for word on adoption, and that indeed the stress can split some couples apart. Talk to us about the stress of waiting and any tips you can give couples for keeping their relationships from falling apart.
  • I did some research on your wife’s book Joyful Eating. (Pg 179) would it be OK to put a link to the information I found in the show notes? If you have info on how we can obtain the book, I can put that in the show notes as well. 

  

  • You guys had me researching raw chocolate!
  • That final decision to stop the adoption process. (pg 181). I felt it deep in my heart.  Honestly, the entire book brought out so much emotion. That type of writing takes a lot of talent. Kudos to you! Before we close out, any final words you can give to anyone listening who is still trying: to adopt, to go through IVF, whatever journey they are on? 
  • Thank you so much for your time today Rob.  

Articles/links of interest:

https://oceanswims.com/lifestyle/rob-hutchings-the-downriver-nomad/?fbclid=IwAR2fJWWPOstXR_S9e1OJgcX87qvG4UsaaSG0KXki_ed_y7XyyctM48_VRIE

Clutha River Swim:

Short version

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IVyqCkHTDrY

Long version:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WeIW6ioSHZA

https://www.saltwire.com/nova-scotia/sports/corner-brook-native-rob-hutchings-completes-swim-of-new-zealands-longest-river-419202/

Easter 2022 Marathon Swim:

https://worldchildlessweek.net/thurs-16-2021/childlessness-the-roughest-waters?fbclid=IwAR3xYw3UhJEcAorZI-OaANnbde4SxiStWoV9HsIV2eFx5XOrY9C7nyTIZvU

See the book synopsis and other endorsements here: 

http://adventuresoutsidethelanes.com/downriver-nomad/

Joyful Eating by Tansy Boggon 

https://www.google.com/books/edition/Joyful_Eating_How_to_Break_Free_of_Diets/W89UEAAAQBAJ?hl=en&gbpv=1&printsec=frontcover

 

Special thank you to:

Rob Hutchings for joining us this episode.

Quotes from Rob:

‘The river was in control, not me.’ What I like about river swimming and childlessness really made this apparent to me…the river is in charge…this is.

‘Life is a series of chaotic events.’

‘Life is inherently chaotic…’

 

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