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Episode 80—Are you being insensitive?

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

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Well, are you being insensitive? Here is how to know:

 

1) Of all the places to sit and talk about whether you and your husband want another child, you choose to sit directly in front of or within hearing distance of your childless not by choice family member.

 

2) You mention or directly tell your childless not by choice friend or family member that it took so long to have your baby (a whole year) that you understand how they feel.

3) You wonder out loud how a woman can be so selfish as to not want babies when you do not know WHY a woman does not have babies.

 

4) You tell a childless not by choice woman that she does not understand because she does not have children (because Lord knows the common-sense part of our brains is underdeveloped until we have children).

5) You do and say things to or in front of a childless not by choice woman to get a reaction.

6) You tell a childless not by choice woman that it just was not God’s will for you to have children (as you chase yours around the house).

7) You tell a childless not by choice woman that she can have yours or that she should be happy she does not have kids because they are a lot of work.

8) Contributed by Stacy– ‘when family members lack understanding and empathy for what you have gone through or are going through in your childlessness.’

 

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Episode 73—Sixth Sense–The Demeanor of Loss

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

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  •  Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
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 Spirit and Demeanor

  • People can sense a spirit, or demeanor about us. They may not always realize what it is, they may not even realize they are sensing something; but they do sense that something may be off.
  • We take in and make a part of us, our spirit, what we have been through. It can be anything: abuse, childlessness, life not turning out as we expected.
  • We must make the decision to face what we have been through. When we face that monster, we can become stronger. We will become stronger.
  • We must decide that we want a better life for ourselves despite what we have been through.
  • When we make that decision, our demeanor will indeed change. People will recognize that change. Those people who knew us when we had that negative spirit or demeanor, will recognize that change.
  • People will realize they can trust us to babysit, or run a daycare center, or be a kindergarten teacher; because they recognize that we pushed through and came through the other side hurt but healed…or at least healing. We are stronger than even they could ever be.
  • There are people out there who want to tell us how to act or react, but the truth is, they could never survive what you or I have been through or dealt with. The bottom line is that you must want to heal. You must want it. And you know what, life is short. So, do you want it? Do you want mental, physical, emotional, spiritual healing, health, healthy relationships; or do you want to wallow in self-pity, sadness, depression? What do you want? Whatever it is you want, it will take work. It takes work to be mean and jealous. It takes work to get rid of those feelings. The thing is though, once you work and push through to the positive feelings, even when the sadness pops up from time to time, you will know what to do with it. You really will, because you want healthy and not hateful.     

 

Episodes mentioned in the podcast:

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-72-male-and-childless-not-by-choice-my-interview-with-dr-robin-hadley/

 

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-65-my-interview-with-mrs-maureen-hornstein/

 

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21st Hannah Podcast, Affirmations from the Home Screen

Hello everyone!

Thank you for visiting! Welcome to another episode of 21st Century Hannah! Thank you to my repeat listeners. And if you are a new listener, I hope you will come back again! 

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Here is the list of affirmations mentioned and discussed in today’s episode. And remember you can find a beautiful printable version on the home page of http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net

Affirmations for the childless not by choice woman and man:

  • I am willing and worthy to live my best, most relevant and joyful life.
  • I am mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually healed.
  • I love me and the person I am becoming.   
  • I am living the life God planned for me, and He knows best.
  • I am thankful for the right people in my life. And I ask them to forgive me for the times I was not at my best. 
  • I am thankful for the people who have left my life. And I forgive them for any wrong they did to me.
  • Although childless not by choice, I have a role in life, and I do something toward that role every day.
  • I have created strong boundaries in my personal and professional life. Doing so allows me to live a mentally healthy and productive life.
  • Understanding my path and my role in life means I am no longer taken advantage of by friends and family who believe I have extra time and money because I am childless.
  • My future is bright and beautiful! And I look forward to taking part 100%!

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Childless not by Choice, Interview with Lesley Pyne

Hi everyone! Thanks for stopping by once again. It is truly appreciated. In this episode, I had the great opportunity to interview United Kingdom based childless not by choice advocate Lesley Pyne.  

We discussed her 10-year struggle with childlessness before coming to terms with the fact that she would not have children.

We talked about the fact that as women around the world who advocate for the childless not by choice community, this is not a competition.  We need to help where we are.

In this interview, Lesley and I discuss her becoming a Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner, as she traveled her road of childlessness. We talked about how NLP helped her, and how she in turn uses it to help others.

As our interview continued, we talked about whether or not NLP completely heals, and the fact that it is a great deal of help, though not necessarily something that completely helps.  

We talked about how time heals to some extent, the journey through childlessness. In fact, Lesley, mentioned that she is now happy with her childlessness, which of course solicited more questions!  It was an interesting conversation. And I hope this interview is as helpful to you, as it was to me.

Thank you so much Lesley Pyne for doing what you do, where you are.   

 

 

Lesley Pyne’s Contact Information:

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