Episode 72–Male and childless not by choice, my interview with Dr. Robin Hadley

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life; although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

Before we get started:

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Well, today I have a special guest! This wonderful gentleman and I follow each other on Twitter. But one day I took a longer look at his Twitter profile and became intrigued with his platform. He talks about childlessness from a man’s point of view! Many of you recall there was a time when I did not consider the thought that men could have difficulty dealing with childlessness. I am so thankful for growth and for revelation!

Since I opened my mind to the fact that men can and do suffer whether emotionally or from society’s expectation, I have had the great opportunity to discuss childlessness from a man’s point of view a couple of times here on the podcast. And now I have the great opportunity to interview Dr. Robin Hadley. Let me tell you a little about him!     

Dr. Robin:

Was born in 1960 in a working-class area of Manchester (UK). He was the 7th of 8 children, 4 boys and 4 girls. Dr. Robin left school with only a few qualifications. But his wide-ranging careers have included such roles as counsellor, deputy technical manager, and scientific and technical photographer (28 years), kitchen assistant, and even bartender.

Dr. Robin’s training as a counsellor and his own experience of the desire for fatherhood, led him to research the subject of involuntarily childless men’s desire for fatherhood as research dissertation for his Master of Arts in Counselling, The University of Manchester.

He followed up with a self-funded Master of Science (again at The University of Manchester) exploring the levels of desire for parenthood (‘broodiness’) in females and males, parents and non-parents. He was a Social Gerontology PhD studentship at Keele University in 2010. And for his PhD study examined the experiences of involuntarily childless older men, and awarded his PhD in December 2015.

Post PhD, Dr. Robin has held a number of short term Research Associate posts on projects relating to ageing, dementia, technology, and fathers influence on infant feeding.

Welcome Dr. Robin!

*Please note that Dr. Robin’s contact information, along with links to his Theses are in the show notes.

Questions:

  • First, for our non-UK listeners, tell us exactly what ‘broodiness’ means. I believe the term may be used in a slightly different way here in America!

 

  • In our first meeting, I asked if you are childless not by choice and you advised you are. Was it due to circumstance or was it biological? I may seem nosey, but I know there are many men listening, and I want them to realize they are not alone.
  • In your research, you mentioned the biological clock. Did you find that men have biological clocks like women do, in a different way, or not at all?

 

  • In your thesis, you said: quote: ‘Research has mainly focussed on family and women, with the fertility intentions, history and experience, of older men being overlooked. Most nations do not collect the fertility history of men and consequently, it is impossible to judge the population level of childless men. Although involuntary childlessness has frequently only been associated with infertility treatment there is growing recognition that there is a latent population that is absent from research literature. ‘Have you seen any change in the two years since you wrote this?

 

  • In your PhD Thesis Summary where you mentioned the research of the 14 men aged 49-82, did you notice a trend of any type, aside from the ongoing grieving, was there anything that stood out or that surprised you about their responses? I am assuming grieving is ongoing?

 

  • Did you have the opportunity to teach these men anything that would help them cope with childlessness?
  • Is there a word of encouragement that you can share with the male listeners?

 

  • ‘Post PhD, you have held a number of short term Research Associate posts on projects relating to aging, dementia, technology, and fathers influence on infant feeding. Tell us more about this research, such as did you recognize an elevated level of dementia, or any other negative impact on the men you researched?

 

  • In closing, is there anything you would like to add, anything I missed? There was so much, and I found your thesis papers intriguing. So I am sure there was much more we could have discussed!

 

Dr. Robin’s contact information:

http://www.robinhadley.co.uk/index.shtml

 

Specialty areas include: men, masculinity, male childlessness and infertility, fatherhood, gender, aging, older men, impact of childlessness/infertility, family.

 

Dr. Robin’s Papers, Thesis and MSc Thesis:

http://bit.ly/2fg0RLc 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0By0paj_-gAAbbXVIR3drQjVGdGM/view?usp=sharing

 

Closing:

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. If you found value in this episode, or the podcast and platform in general, feel free to visit my Patreon site. See the link below. Patreon gives you the opportunity to schedule monthly contributions of any amount, to a platform for which you find value!

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News stories and articles on childlessness…

http://www.vogue.co.uk/article/surrogacy-in-the-uk

 

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Episode 71–Most annoying thing someone has said about your childlessness

Podcast—Episode 71–The Most Annoying Thing You’ve Been told about being childless

Hello, everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life; although we could not, did not, have children we so wanted.

 

 Thank you’s:

  • Thank you for your FB re-shares and your Twitter comments and re-tweets. It is always appreciated.

 

Thank you to my Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link in the show notes for details.)

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  • Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

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In this episode, I go to my Childless not by Choice Facebook group and ask the question, ‘what is the most annoying thing someone has said to you about being childless?’ back in April! A month before Mother’s Day in the USA. Aaaaah, the responses. Will they shock you? It depends on if you have been on the giving end or the receiving end. Let me know, I’m curious!

Oh, and I forgot to add another comment many of you should find hurtful. See below:

One lady said that she was told by someone to leave their children alone and go get her own.

I don’t know about you, but that is downright petty! If you have a comment you did not hear in the episode, send it to me and I will add it to my list. I’m thinking of updating this episode if I get more comments. Please only send in the comment if it happened directly to you.

 

Closing:

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. I appreciate it!

 

“I have decided NOT to live a life of hiding, fear, and apology, for prayers not answered.”—Civilla Morgan.

 

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Episode 70–Waiting Wombs Trust, My Interview with Founder Hadassa Trip

Hello everyone, Civilla Morgan here!

Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life; although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

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  • Monthly payment to my podcast distributor.
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  • Purchase and maintenance of a classroom for future online courses.
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Hadassa says “I founded Waiting Wombs Trust, an organization that brings together couples, women, men who have walked the child waiting journey and succeeded on are still in wait. We also create awareness about childlessness.

We support such by sharing experiences, encouraging and waiting together.

We have also partnered with some doctors to help needy cases or just waiting wombs in general. Childless couples and mostly women go through a lot.”

 

Interview questions: 

  • Tell us why you chose the name Waiting Wombs project, tell us about the project.
  • Tell us about your Facebook Group. It’s a large group! Are most of the people from the continent, are they based in Kenya?
  • How do the men deal with the group, are they involved at all?
  • How long has the Waiting Womb project been in existence?
  • How do you encourage women and couples who are waiting?
  • Do you get the ‘why don’t you just adopt?’ question over there? And do you get unwanted commentary from strangers and family?
  • How do you overcome moments of sadness?

 

Hadassa’s Contact information:

 http://www.waitingwombstrust.org

hadassa@waitingwombstrust.org

Facebook: Waiting wombs (ww)

 

Closing:

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. If you found value in this episode, or the podcast and platform in general, feel free to visit the donation jar on the website, stop by iTunes and leave me a rating and review, and of course tell a friend. 

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Episode 69–How to Live not just exist, after a crisis

Hello, everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless, not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

Please remember to tell your friends about the show and share episodes to your social media followers! I would appreciate that!

 

Well, today I have a special guest, and I am so excited! You know how some people come into your life and you are just so happy they exist? That’s how I feel about this special young lady, she is just beautiful inside and out! Let me tell you a more about her before we get started:   

Valerie Zollinger is a Certified Professional Speaker, Best-Selling Author and Leader. Her unique blend of passion, authenticity and extensive understanding of human behavior results in enlightening and engaging presentations for audiences. She is known as the “Light Giver” for her great strength, compassion, and desire to spread a message of hope in the face of any challenge or adversity.

 

Valerie received her Bachelor’s and Master’s Degrees in Social Work from the University of Central Florida. She has ten years of experience working with people from diverse backgrounds in various settings including mental health, hospitals, and dialysis clinics. She has helped thousands of people make positive changes in their lives. Valerie prides herself on being a loving and accepting person. She has had a passion for writing and for helping others since she was a child.

 

Valerie is a successful business owner with Arbonne International and a team leader. She is the President of the Board for the Bereaved Survivors of Homicide, Inc., and a member of the Junior League of Greater Orlando. Her vision is a world where all people know and understand that a healthy, powerful body leads to a healthy, powerful life. Valerie’s mission is to inspire others to make the changes necessary in their lives to step into their greatness.

 

Welcome Valerie:

 

Let’s get started! You have done this talk several times, and I am honored that you are sharing it with us today!  I just know that the childless not by choice community will gain help and healing just by hearing your story, and by listening as you explain the five F’s to us today! I know I did!

  

Finance-

Faith-

Forgiveness-

Friends & Family-

Fitness-

 

In the episode, I mentioned a previous episode where I interviewed CFP Reshell Smith. Here is a link to that episode on finance for women around the world: 

 

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/childless-not-by-choice-reshell-smith-interview-finance-for-women-around-the-world/

 

 

Closing:

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. If you found value in this episode, or the podcast and platform in general, feel free to visit the donation jar on the website, stop by iTunes and leave me a rating and review, and of course tell a friend. 

 

Valerie’s contact information:

Contact Valerie at Valerie@valeriezollinger.com or (407) 342-6481. Visit her websites: valeriezollinger.com and valeriesmith5.arbonne.com.

 

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Episode 68–Is Childlessness a Crisis? Caplan’s Theory of Crisis

Hello, everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

                                                        

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Well, today I am going to discuss a subject of which I knew nothing, but for which I use regularly as my platform’s byline.  It’s a funny thing about not knowing what we don’t know, isn’t it? 

All through the platform, in all my intros, I say that ‘you can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life.’ Never realizing that thought process could possibly have its roots in a sociological or psychological process for coping.

As many of you know, I wanted children more than anything on this planet. I managed pain and embarrassment for a decade attempting to buy time to possibly have a child. Ultimately, it did not happen. I wanted to have a child or children with someone who would help me raise them. I really could not imagine raising a child by myself, although at one point in my 10-year journey I did consider IVF as I started to run out of time, and after two failed attempts at adoption. 

I finally scheduled the surgery that would end my physical pain, embarrassing monthly accidents, and any hope I had left, of ever having a child.   

I fought and struggled my way through sadness, bitterness, shame, fear, feeling like a second-class citizen, battling all the negative thoughts that tried to take up residence in my mind.

I made the decision, the choice; to journey to a place of acceptance and realization that I would not have the children and the lifestyle I had expected. I had to decide: what kind of life would I have? Would I allow myself to live as a self-imposed second-class, shamed, and embarrassed about my situation citizen? Or would I make the decision to speak out about my situation knowing there were millions of women experiencing a similar journey?  Women who were and are hiding in plain sight?

Would I be willing to face down the critics who asked why I could not just get over it, or my favorite…’why don’t you just adopt?’ Those of us in the childless not by choice community love that question. I think that’s our favorite question.    

Could I really convince women around the world, and men, that they really could live joyful and relevant lives? Would they believe me? Do I believe me?

Some days I believe it, some days I ask myself who am I kidding? I have my moments, especially around Mother’s Day, where I feel like I am fooling myself. It is around that time that I feel like a fraud.

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-64-i-feel-like-a-fraud/ 

But the alternative was scary.  Depression, sadness, fear, bitterness, envy…I could not and cannot imagine living the rest of my life with those feelings as my narrative. There had to be an alternative.  

There will be moments of sadness weaved into the tapestry of our journey, but deep down, even during those moments when I feel like a fraud when I don’t believe me; I know I made the right choice. The choice to be relevant and joyful. The choice to help others.  I decided that the negative alternatives were just not an option. 

And remember, choice does not just happen. It is a process. There will be good days and there will be bad days. But underlying the ups and downs is the choice, the decision.  

So here is my point: It turns out that my byline of living a joyful and relevant life is much the same as Caplan’s Theory of Crises. What is Caplan’s Theory of Crises? I’m glad you asked:  

  

Caplan (1964) initially defined a crisis as occurring when individuals are confronted with problems that cannot be solved. These irresolvable issues result in an increase in tension, signs of anxiety, a subsequent state of emotional unrest, and an inability to function for extended periods. James and Gilliland (2005) define crises as events or situations perceived as intolerably difficult that exceed an individual’s available resources and coping mechanisms. Similarly, Roberts (2000) defines a crisis as “a period of psychological disequilibrium, experienced as a result of a hazardous event or situation that constitutes a significant problem that cannot be remedied by using familiar coping strategies” (p. 7). The Chinese translation of the word “crisis” consists of two separate characters, which paradoxically mean danger and opportunity (Greene, Lee, Trask, & Rheinscheld, 2000). Crisis intervention thus provides opportunities for clients to learn new coping skills while identifying, mobilizing, and enhancing those they already possess. The following are characteristics of crisis events:

  • The event precipitating the crisis is perceived as threatening.
  • There is an apparent inability to modify or reduce the impact of stressful events.
  • There is increased fear, tension, and/or confusion.
  • There is a high level of subjective discomfort.
  • A state of disequilibrium is followed by rapid transition to an active state of crisis.

 

 

Crisis Intervention is an immediate and short-term psychological care aimed at assisting individuals in a crisis situation to restore equilibrium to their biopsychosocial functioning and to minimize the potential for long-term psychological trauma.             

 

The two things I really liked about the above information: are the last sentence, and how the Chinese created two paradoxical characters to equate to crisis. 

*** It is so important to quickly work on minimizing the potential for long-term psychological trauma. Many people are afraid to go see a psychologist or psychiatrist, but it is important to see one immediately after a traumatic experience or crisis. 

In life, there will be trauma. There will be crisis. But there is also hope.  Which leads to the other thing I liked: the meaning of the Chinese two-character definition of crisis: danger and opportunity.  Those two words: danger and opportunity, are not typically used in the same sentence. But isn’t it wonderful that the Chinese thought of the possibility of hope even during trauma, during crisis? Even in crisis, there is hope.

Hope is what I hung onto for ten years, until my final surgery. I could have lost all hope after that surgery, but I decided to create a new hope. It didn’t happen overnight. Sometimes choice is a process.

You may have had to take a left turn. Maybe that IVF treatment failed yet again, and you cannot afford any more treatments.  Maybe you had to finally have a hysterectomy. Totally not what you had planned.  And while trying the treatments, or trying to hang onto that uterus, you had hope. But now that those hopes have been taken away, you must manifest a new set of hopes.

Life is a journey. You know that as well as I do. There will be ups and downs, back tracks, winding roads, fear, sadness, happiness, guilt, strengthening events, clueless people making clueless comments, and seemingly mentally weakening events. But throughout the entire journey, we must hang onto hope.     

I’ve put the Kaplan’s Theory of Crisis graph in the show notes.  It is a pictorial graph of the progression of how we deal with crisis: before, during, and after.

 

If you look at the graph, you will see how many of us are going along, managing life, pre-crisis. But during the crisis which I call the ‘glass half full or half empty’ visual, the affected person’s coping mechanism drops precipitously, but then there are three levels of recovery.

In the green level, you can see that the person recovered to higher than where they were before the crisis. Another person recovered to just about where they were or just a little lower.

But a third person’s coping capacity was seriously diminished. They did not recover per se, they either just checked out of life, or it would not take much to send them over the edge. Their mental, emotional, may be even physical state, is fragile.

I believe the hope that you may have held onto at the outset of the crisis, or a new-found hope post crisis, is what helps a person to recover above and beyond that seriously diminished capacity to cope.

This is how important hope is. So, I am asking you to hang onto hope or find a new hope if life did not turn out the way you expected. If you do not have that baby you hoped for. If you never have that baby. If you must watch women around you have child after child after child. Knowing some of them consider their children mistakes. Watching some of them give up their little girls out of tradition. Exchanging their children for that next drug induced hit. Even killing their children. 

I know I have asked you to do this in previous episodes, but I am going to ask you again: whenever you hear about or see these heartbreaking stories, pray for the child. Help where you can, and find new hope. Recover to higher than where you were pre-crisis. Do not allow this crisis to take you to a place of hopelessness and diminished capacity to cope. Have hope!         

 

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. If you found value in this episode, or the podcast and platform in general, feel free to visit the donation jar on the website, stop by iTunes and leave me a rating and review, and of course tell a friend.   

  

Citations:

https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/14229_Chapter5.pdf

 

http://ptgmedia.pearsoncmg.com/images/9780132431774/downloads/jackson_ch1_overviewofcrisisintervention.pdf

 

Tags:

Suicide, childlessness, loss, barrenness, PCOS, miscarriage, infertility, fibroids,

 

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episode 67—Podcastiversary Celebration Part Two

Hello, everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by Choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyfully relevant and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

Please remember to tell your friends about the show, share episodes to your social media followers! I would appreciate that!

                                                        

Thank you’s:

  • Thank you for your FB re-shares and your Twitter comments and re-tweets. It is always appreciated.
  • Individual thank you’s if any:

 

  • iTunes review:

There are differing opinions in the podcasting community about a podcaster’s status in iTunes, but one thing I believe we all agree on is that the more reviews the better. Why? Because when visitors see quite a few reviews they become curious about the podcast. I believe though, that if someone is searching for a particular subject matter, they may give the podcast at least one listen no matter how many reviews they see, but I still believe the more reviews the better. So, your stopping by and giving me a review would be just wonderful, and giving the podcast a listen, even more so! Thank you!

 

  • Shout outs:

My cousin Amber who got me set up on the nitty gritty back end of podcast set up. She was so patient with my cluelessness!

My Podcast Producer, Kevin Scullion of Alba Digital Media.

My Childless not by Choice Group Admins: Kerri, Elaine, and Sarah.   

My listeners!

  • Facebook Groups:

I have a few groups and pages on Facebook. Two of the groups were set up specifically for the childless not by choice demographic and supporters of the platform. One group is for women only, Childless not by Choice, and the other group is called Childless not by Choice Supporters.  Both links have been posted below. You may also join directly via the website, http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net, as well.

If you have problems finding the group, email me at civilla@civillamorgan.com for assistance. Turn-around time is right around 24 hours.

These groups are kept up to date with fresh content regularly, and conversation is welcomed!

Childless not by Choice:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/545985648898951/

Childless not by Choice Supporters:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/booksbycivillamorgan/

 

One on One sessions:

Well, I am close to being all set to welcome you to one on one sessions! I know these sessions are needed and I cannot wait for us to talk!

Please note: these one on one sessions will be conversational based on experiences, best practices; discussing such things as clear, kind, but firm boundaries.

These conversations will not be a replacement for speaking with a professional.

The sign up will be on the Shop tab on the website.

 

Webinars/classes:

I am creating some subject-based webinars and classes. The first subject I will be broaching is suicide, suicidal thoughts, etc. I know that there are millions of us around the world on this childlessness journey. And we are all in different places in our thoughts and feelings on our childlessness.

It does not help that society seems to think they have a say in our production or lack thereof. What many people do not seem to understand, is that childlessness is not just physical, it is also mental and emotional. Their unwanted two cents do not help. So, I am hoping this first webinar will help those of you struggling with thoughts of suicide.  Please note, this will be paid content.

 

Well, thank you for listening. I cannot believe it’s been two years! Podcasting is one of a handful of things in my life that I am so glad I did, and have no regrets.  Don’t you love when you can make two or three decisions like that in life? I am truly thankful that this medium has allowed me to reach you.     

As promised, here is the link to my episode with my Podcast Producer:

 http://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-66-my-two-year-podcasting-anniversary-interview-with-my-podcast-producer/

 

  • Don’t forget to check out the articles of note below!

 

Articles of note:

Is there a connection between divorce and infertility? Check out the article below:

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/318292.php

 

Male infertility?

http://www.nigeriatoday.ng/2017/06/male-infertility-major-factor-in-childlessness-says-expert/

 

 

 

 

My contact information:

Website: http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net and http://www.civillamorgan.com

Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan

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Episode 66–My Two-Year Podcasting Anniversary Interview with My Podcast Producer

Episode 66—Two-year anniversary episode, my conversation with my Podcast Producer/Web builder Kevin Scullion

 Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyfully relevant and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have children we so wanted. Thank you for allowing me to sit with you a while!

 

Intro, how we met—

 

  • How did you get into podcasting?
  • Tell us more about your podcast…
  • What made you want to start creating (websites) and editing (podcasts) for others?

4) Tell us how podcasts can be a wonderful resource…

 5)What creates longevity in a podcast?

6) How can people reach you if they need assistance with podcast production and or web building? And how do people access your podcast?
 

Shout out:

‘Wow! That was so brutally honest. Hats off to you for opening up yourself to others like that. That is why God is using you so powerfully.

Of course, I have no answers for your questions. I am not in the same boat as you, but in a similar situation of sometimes feeling, “How can I say so and so when I am not even there myself?”

You are needed. You are not a fraud. You are simply doing God’s will. Keep on doing what you do.’

Love,

Olive

(In response to the main article in my June Newsletter, Your Monthly Guide to Living the Childless Life)

 

Kevin’s contact information:

Use the link below to contact Kevin for your podcast production or web building needs

http://albadigitalmedia.com/  

 

Use the link below to listen to Kevin’s podcast episodes

http://www.bonnietours.com/episodes/

 

My contact information:

Website: http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net and http://www.civillamorgan.com

Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan

Twitter: @civilla1

Instagram: @civilla1

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LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM

 

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Episode 65–My Interview with Mrs. Maureen Hornstein

Episode 65—My interview with Mrs. Maureen Hornstein

Hello everyone!

Thank you for listening to another episode of Childless not by Choice! I appreciate your taking the time to listen in once again. Thank you to my repeat listeners. And if you are listening for the first time, I hope you will come back for another visit!

Remember to tell your friends about the show, and feel free to share to your social media followers! I would appreciate that!

 

Mrs. Maureen Hornstein is originally from a small town in Minnesota, USA. At University, she studied Speech-Theater, Music, and Education. Upon graduation, she joined the staff of a faith-based organization, Campus Crusade for Christ International now known as Cru.

 

Maureen and her husband, Hank, have spent most of their careers living in three countries outside of the United States. Currently, Maureen is the Women’s Asia Strategy Coordinator for the Jesus Film Project. On that project, she works with various media tools that help women realize that no matter what their family or country may think of them; God their Creator, made them valuable.

 

 

  • Was it a conscious decision to work and live outside the United States?

 

  • In your bio, you say that you help women realize that no matter what women’s families and cultures may tell them, their Creator values them. How exactly do you convey this truth to women? Is this through your Jesus Film Project, or in your daily life’s journey?  

 

  •  When did you and your husband realize you would not be having children?

 

  • Do you both come from large or small families?

 

 

  • Was there any pushback from either of your families when they realized you weren’t having children?

 

  • Did you and your husband have to journey to a place of acceptance?

 

 

  • What suggestions would you have for women struggling with childlessness?

 

To contact Mrs. Maureen Hornstein:

Magdalena Today on Facebook

http://www.magdalenatoday.com

Jesus film media app

 

 

“Empathy is finding echoes of another person in yourself.”–Mohsin Hamid.

 

 

Stories of note:

http://www.the-star.co.ke/news/2017/05/17/we-are-not-barren-or-infertile-we-are-just-but-waiting-wombs-childless_c1557714

https://www.rt.com/op-edge/389574-macron-may-merkel-europes-childless/

 

My contact information:

Website: http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net and http://www.civillamorgan.com

Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan

Twitter: @civilla1

Instagram: @joyandrelevance 

Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM

LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM

 

 

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Episode 64–I Feel Like a Fraud

Episode 64— I Feel Like a Fraud

Hello everyone!

Thank you for visiting another episode of 21st Century Hannah! I appreciate your taking the time to listen in once again. Thank you to my repeat listeners. And if you are listening for the first time, I hope you will come back for another visit!

Remember to tell your friends about the show, and feel free to share to your social media followers! I would appreciate that!

                                                       

Thank you’s:

  • Thank you for your FB re-shares and your Twitter comments and re-tweets. It is always appreciated.

Individual thank you’s:

Shout outs: Carla from CO. Thank you for your wonderful email, and for sharing your blog with me. In reading her email and blog, I recognized that we have had very similar experiences as childless not by choice women. Thank you, Carla, for reach out!

 

I feel like a fraud…

That’s what I told my brother. And that’s what I told a very good friend of mine. It was a few days after Mother’s Day here in the US. I had been afraid to verbalize it to anyone because I wasn’t sure what reaction I would get.

How could I possibly be two years into building a platform created to help women who are childless not by choice feel better about themselves. Feel better about their lives. Many of you know, my byline: ‘Living a joyful and relevant life although childless not by choice.’

It all started a few days before Mother’s Day. It always does.

 

Stories of note:

http://www.the-star.co.ke/news/2017/05/17/we-are-not-barren-or-infertile-we-are-just-but-waiting-wombs-childless_c1557714

 

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/may/12/theresa-may-children-politics-women-gender

 

http://micetimes.asia/to-make-money-not-kids/

 

My contact information:

Website: http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net and http://www.civillamorgan.com

Facebook: Civilla Morgan

Twitter: @civilla1

Instagram: @civilla1

Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM

LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM

 

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p.s. There is a lot of conversation going on in the Facebook Group Childless not by Choice. If you are childless not by choice and would like to join the conversation in a judgment-free zone, stop by and become a group member!  

Until next time! Bye!

 

Episode 63–My interview with Fitness Coach/Bodybuilder Michael Echeverria

Episode 63—My Interview with Fitness Coach Michael Echeverria

Hello everyone!

Thank you for visiting another episode of Childless not by Choice! I appreciate your taking the time to listen in once again. Thank you to my repeat listeners. And if you are listening for the first time, I hope you will come back for another visit!

Remember to tell your friends about the show, and feel free to share with your friends and followers! I would appreciate that!

Thank you’s:

  • Thank you for your FB re-shares and your Twitter comments and re-tweets. It is always appreciated.

Today’s episode is an interview with Fitness Coach/Bodybuilder Michael Echeverria. You are in for some surprises on just how simple good nutrition and fitness really are. And you may find that the so-called Third-World countries may have better food options than we do in the Western world!

Don’t you just love Michael’s energy! It was a pleasure to speak with him. And I hope you learned as much as I did about fitness and about the right foods to put in our bodies. To learn more about Michael and his platform, Fitness by Design, see his contact information below. 

 

Michael’s contact info:

http://www.fitnessbyexample.com

(407) 529-4512

 

Here are some news stories of interest:

(I like to post stories I come across that pertain to the world of childless, not by choice):

http://micetimes.asia/to-make-money-not-kids/

 

http://www.breitbart.com/london/2017/05/09/election-macron-leaders-europes-top-four-economies-zero-children/

 

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/may/12/theresa-may-children-politics-women-gender

 

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Remember, I love hearing from you! Email me, DM me on Facebook or Twitter, or leave me a message on Speak Pipe on the website. All of the contact information is below!

 

My contact information:

email: civilla@civillamorgan.com

Website: http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net and http://www.civillamorgan.com

Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan

Twitter: @civilla1

Instagram: @civilla1

Instagram: @joyandrelevance (content mostly on the subject of childless not by choice)

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