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Episode 80—Are you being insensitive?

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

  • Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link for details and to become a Patron!)

 

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  • Jordan Morgan

 

Well, are you being insensitive? Here is how to know:

 

1) Of all the places to sit and talk about whether you and your husband want another child, you choose to sit directly in front of or within hearing distance of your childless not by choice family member.

 

2) You mention or directly tell your childless not by choice friend or family member that it took so long to have your baby (a whole year) that you understand how they feel.

3) You wonder out loud how a woman can be so selfish as to not want babies when you do not know WHY a woman does not have babies.

 

4) You tell a childless not by choice woman that she does not understand because she does not have children (because Lord knows the common-sense part of our brains is underdeveloped until we have children).

5) You do and say things to or in front of a childless not by choice woman to get a reaction.

6) You tell a childless not by choice woman that it just was not God’s will for you to have children (as you chase yours around the house).

7) You tell a childless not by choice woman that she can have yours or that she should be happy she does not have kids because they are a lot of work.

8) Contributed by Stacy– ‘when family members lack understanding and empathy for what you have gone through or are going through in your childlessness.’

 

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Episode 79–part two, 11 Childless not by Choice Women who Changed the World

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless, not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

  • Thank you to my Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally.

 

  • Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

 

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Welcome to part two of 10, 11 Childless not by Choice women who Changed the World

In this segment, we start the list with famed French Chef Julia Child!

Popular TV chef and author Julia Child was born on August 15, 1912, in Pasadena, California. In 1948, she moved to France where she developed a penchant for French cuisine. With a goal of adapting sophisticated French cuisine for mainstream Americans, she collaborated on a two-volume cookbook called Mastering the Art of French Cooking, which was considered groundbreaking, and has since become a standard guide for the culinary community. She also became a television icon with her popular cooking shows such as The French Chef

Child lived a privileged childhood. She was educated at San Francisco’s elite Katherine Branson School for Girls, where—at a towering height of 6 feet, 2 inches—she was the tallest student in her class. She was a lively prankster who, as one friend recalled, could be “really, really wild.” She was also adventurous and athletic, with talent in golf, tennis and small-game hunting.

 

In 1993, she was rewarded for her work when she became the first woman inducted into the Culinary Institute Hall of Fame. In November 2000, following a 40-year career that has made her name synonymous with fine food and a permanent among the world’s most famous chefs, Julia received France’s highest honor: The Legion d’Honneur. And in August 2002, the Smithsonian’s National Museum of American History unveiled an exhibit featuring the kitchen, where she filmed three of her popular cooking shows.

Child died in August 2004 of kidney failure at her assisted-living home in Montecito, two days before her 92nd birthday. Child had no intentions of slowing down, even in her final days. “In this line of work…you keep right on till you’re through,” she said. “Retired people are boring. “After her death Child’s last book, the autobiography My Life in France was published with the help of Child’s great nephew, Alex Prud’homme. The book, which centered on how Child discovered her true calling, became a best seller.

(My notes on Julia Child: Did you get that? Her autobiography was ‘centered on how Child discovered her true calling…’ have you discovered your true calling yet, because you have one.

https://www.biography.com/people/julia-child-9246767

 

Harriet Tubman (1822–1913) was an escaped slave who became a leading figure in the abolitionist movement. Harriet Tubman also served as a spy for the US army during the civil war and was an active participant in the struggle for women’s suffrage, an iconic symbol of courage and resistance to injustice, inspiring many generations of civil rights activists.

Tubman helped rescue over 70 slaves, in about 13 expeditions (and offering advice to many more). She often traveled in the darker winter months, making it easier to travel incognito by night. Because of the dangers on the road, she always took a revolver with her. She was also willing to use it to threaten any escaped slave who wished to go back because she knew returning would endanger all the escapees. She was proud never to lose an escaping slave on her expeditions. In April 2016, it was announced she would figure on the US $20 bill.

https://www.biographyonline.net/women/harriet-Tubman-biography.html

 

Eva Peron served as Argentina’s First lady from 1946 to 1952.  Eva Peron or ‘Evita’ became a powerful political figure with a large support base amongst the poor and working-class trade union members. She inspired millions with her campaigns to help the poor and give women the right to vote.

To her supporters, she was a saint who strove to overcome poverty and injustice. To her detractors (in the nation’s military and bourgeoisie) she was a controversial figure at the heart of Argentinian politics. Eva Peron remains an important symbol of emancipation, especially for women in Latin America. She was one of the first women to create a lasting political/humanitarian legacy. Christina Fernandez, the first female elected President of Argentina, claims that women of her generation owe a debt to Eva for “her example of passion and combativeness”.

http://www.biographyonline.net/politicians/american/eva-peron.html

 

Cicely Tyson is an award-winning film, television and stage actress. She is known for choosing quality roles that send positive messages to women of color.

Cicely Tyson was born in New York City on December 19, 1924 (although some believe her birth year to be 1933). She built a successful career by carefully choosing roles that exemplified quality and depth. She has won accolades and awards for her performances on TV, stage and in film, with credits including SounderRootsThe Autobiography of Miss Jane Pittman and The Help. Tyson has won two Emmy Awards and a Tony Award, among other honors, over the course of her acting career. She was inducted into the Black Filmmakers Hall of Fame in 1977.

Tyson grew up in Harlem, New York. At the age of 18, she walked away from a typing job and began modeling. Tyson was then drawn to acting, though she had not been permitted to go to plays or movies as a child. When she got her first acting job, her religious mother, feeling that Tyson was choosing a sinful path, kicked her out of their home.

Despite her mother’s initial disapproval (the two didn’t speak for two years before reconciling), Tyson found success as an actress, appearing onstage, in movies and on TV.

Tyson was nominated for an Academy Award for 1972’s Sounder. She also portrayed notable roles on television, including Kunta Kinte’s mother in the adaptation of Alex Haley’s Roots and the title role in The Autobiography of Miss Jane Pittman, which earned Tyson an Emmy Award in 1974. Moving to Broadway in 1983, Tyson was the lead in The Corn Is Green, a play set in a Welsh mining town.

However, Tyson’s career trajectory wasn’t a smooth one; at times, she had trouble simply finding work. She flatly refused to do “blaxploitation” films or to take parts solely for the paycheck and was selective about the roles she chose. As she explained in a 1983 interview, “Unless a piece really said something, I had no interest in it. I have got to know that I have served some purpose here.”

Through the years, Tyson has kept much of her personal life—including her birth year—under wraps. One known personal detail is that Tyson was married to Miles Davis for seven years in the 1980s.

Though other information about her life is scant, Tyson has a well-known commitment to community involvement. She co-founded the Dance Theater of Harlem after Martin Luther King Jr.’s assassination, and when a school board in East Orange, New Jersey, wanted to name a performing arts schools after her, she only agreed to accept the honor if she could participate in school activities. In addition to attending meetings and events, Tyson has even taught a master class at the school.

Tyson has received numerous acting awards and nominations and became a member of the Black Filmmakers Hall of Fame in 1977. She has also been honored by the Congress of Racial Equality and by the National Council of Negro Women. And in 2010, the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People presented Tyson with its 95th Spingarn Medal—an award given to African Americans who have reached outstanding levels of achievement.

In 2015 Tyson was nominated for an Emmy for her guest starring role in ABC’s How to Get Away With Murder and was a recipient of the Kennedy Center Honors. The following year, she was honored with the Presidential Medal of Freedom by Barack Obama.

For more information on Cicely Tyson, click the link below:

https://www.biography.com/people/cicely-tyson-9512950

(my notes on Cicely Tyson: Did you get that? ‘However, Tyson’s career trajectory wasn’t a smooth one; at times, she had trouble simply finding work. She flatly refused to do “blaxploitation” films, or to take parts solely for the paycheck, and was selective about the roles she chose.’

QUOTES:

“I feel so guilty about the state of young people today. And I say that because our generation fought for everything. We fought to sit down at a counter, to sit on a bus. They were left with nothing to fight for.”

—Cicely Tyson

 NOTE: In the episode, I said she was born in the same part of the world I was. I meant to say her family is from the same part of the world where I was born, The Caribbean.

 

 

Dian Fossey was born in San Francisco, Calif., in 1932. Her parents divorced when she was young, so Dian grew up with her mother and stepfather. By all accounts, she was an excellent student and was extremely interested in animals from a very young age. At age 6, she began horseback riding lessons and in high school earned a letter on the riding team.

When Dian enrolled in college courses at Marin Junior College, she chose to focus on business, following the encouragement of her stepfather, a wealthy businessman. She worked while in school, and at age 19, on the summer break following her freshman year of college, she went to work on a ranch in Montana. At the ranch, she fell in love with and developed an attachment to the animals, but she was forced to leave early when she contracted chicken pox.

Even so, the experience convinced Dian to follow her heart and return to school as a pre-veterinary student at the University of California. She found some of the chemistry and physics courses quite challenging, and ultimately, she turned her focus to a degree in occupational therapy at San Jose State College, from which she graduated in 1954.

 

She spent many years longing to visit Africa and realized that if her dream were to be realized, she would have to take matters into her own hands. Therefore, in 1963, Dian took out a bank loan and began planning her first trip to Africa. She hired a driver by mail and prepared to set off to the land of her dreams.

 

It took Dian Fossey’s entire life savings, in addition, a bank loan, to make her dream a reality. In September 1963, she arrived in Kenya. 

 Following her visit to the Virungas, Dian remained in Africa a while longer, staying with friends in Rhodesia. Upon arriving home in Kentucky, she resumed her work at Kosair Children’s Hospital, in order to repay the loan she had taken out for her trip to Africa – all the while dreaming of the day she would return.

 

In 1980, Dian moved to Ithaca, New York, as a visiting associate professor at Cornell University. She used the time away from Karisoke to focus on the manuscript for her book, “Gorillas in the Mist.” Published in 1983, the book is an account of her years in the rainforest with the mountain gorillas. Most importantly, it underscores the need for concerted conservation efforts. The book was well received and, like the movie of the same name remains popular to this day.

 

Dian had not been back in Rwanda long when, a few weeks before her 54th birthday, she was murdered. Her body was found in her cabin on the morning of Dec. 27, 1985. She was struck twice on the head and face with a machete. There was evidence of forced entry but no signs that robbery had been the motive.

 

Please click the link below for more information on Dian Fossey.

 

https://gorillafund.org/who-we-are/dian-fossey/dian-fossey-bio/

 

Quote: “There was no way that I could explain to dogs, friends, or parents my compelling need to return to Africa to launch a long-term study of the gorillas. Some may call it destiny and others may call it dismaying. I call the sudden turn of events in my life fortuitous.” — “Gorillas in the Mist”

 

“When you realize the value of all life, you dwell less on what is past and concentrate on the preservation of the future.” — “Gorillas in the Mist”

 

Women I also found interesting, but I promised 10! Feel free to check out the biographyonline.net site if you would like to learn more about these women! 

Ginger Rogers

Betsy Ross

Helen Keller

Kathryn Johanna Kuhlman

Bonnie Raitt

 

Is there a woman who did not make the list? Let me know. I would love to do a follow up to this episode as I believe it is such an encouragement to see these women did not fold their arms and check out of society.

 

Below are two links that list men and women down through history, who never had children:

http://nkohk.forumotion.net/t16-the-long-list-of-childfree-and-childless-in-history

http://brianhassett.com/2010/06/people-who-dont-have-kids/

 

Used for research purposes, some of these women did have children:

http://www.biographyonline.net/people/women-who-changed-world.html

 

 

Articles of note:

http://www.theaustralian.com.au/opinion/columnists/berejiklian-gillard-may-merkel-power-to-childless-women/news-story/004e9d8eaf2940ba43ce39d3bd86fc3b

 

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In Closing: Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. I appreciate it!

Until next time! Bye!

 

 

Episode 78–11 Childless not by Choice Women Who Changed the World—Part one

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless, not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

  • Thank you to my Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount monthly to help fund the creation of awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally.
  •  Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

 

Click the link below to become my next Patreon Subscriber:

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Well today, at the suggestion of a member of our Childless not by Choice Facebook group, I am going to tell you about 11 childless, not by choice women who changed the world! Cool, right? What a wonderful way to start off the new year!

I want to remind you that although we are on a childless not by choice journey, a journey we did not plan when we were seven and playing wedding with our dolls or writing little love notes to the cute boy in 6th grade. Or maybe you married the love of your life only to realize there would be no natural born children. You are still on this planet for a reason.

Once you face the fact that you will not have children, and whether you adopt, you must decide what you will do with the rest of your life. Will you blend into the background of life, existing, deciding not to show up for your own life?  Opting to live with a level of unhappiness that exists just beneath the surface. An almost, not quite sadness that brews just beneath the surface? A seething bitterness, anger, envy, or fear of growing old and alone. Your prayers, dreams, hopes, and wishes smashed to pieces.

OR, you, we, can CHOOSE to face all that negativity squarely in the face; however, it manifests: family, friends, frienemies, and strangers; and CHOOSE to create the life you would like to live. With that, here is part one of the list. Listen to episode 79, for part two.      

 

The list:

There were many wonderful women to choose from. It was tough to narrow it to 10, you know, the typical top 10 list; but that 11th person I just could not leave off.

How I decided:

  • I chose women from around the world
  • I chose women from different walks of life
  • I chose women from different socioeconomic levels
  • I chose women who made a global as well as local impact with their lives.
  • I chose women who made an impact in just about every industry: medicine, music, religion, politics, social justice, and the arts. Well, almost every field.

Well, without further ado, may I present the list:

Dr. Audrey Evans—Born in York, England, 1925.  Life’s work: Pediatric Oncology. She “developed the Evans Staging System for neuroblastoma, a malignant hemorrhagic tumor of the adrenal medulla that occurs mainly in infants and children.” She also co-founded the Ronald McDonald House.

I posted two links below. One is a link of more information on Dr. Evans, the other is an awesome video where she is interviewed. I purposely did not say too much about Dr. Evans because that video says it all. It will leave you speechless. 

https://cfmedicine.nlm.nih.gov/physicians/biography_106.html

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hstjG19OjkA  (I LOVE this video)

 

“Rosa Louise McCauley Parks (1913 – 2005) was an African American civil rights activist and seamstress whom the U.S. Congress dubbed the “Mother of the Modern-Day Civil Rights Movement”.

Parks is famous for her refusal on 1 December 1955, to obey bus driver James Blake’s demand that she relinquish her seat to a white man. Her subsequent arrest and trial for this act of civil disobedience triggered the Montgomery Bus Boycott, one of the largest and most successful mass movements against racial segregation in history, and launched Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., one of the organizers of the boycott, to the forefront of the civil rights movement.” 

In other words, she was a catalyst! I know she did not get up that morning thinking ‘I think I will be a catalyst today!’ For more information on Ms. Parks, please view the link below. 

https://www.biographyonline.net/humanitarian/rosa-parks.html

 

Mother Teresa (1910–1997) was a Roman Catholic nun who devoted her life to serving the poor and destitute around the world. She spent many years in Calcutta, India where she founded the Missionaries of Charity, a religious congregation devoted to helping those in great need. In 1979, Mother Teresa was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize and became a symbol of charitable, selfless work. In 2016, Mother Teresa was canonized by the Roman Catholic Church as Saint Teresa.

One of her famous quotes was:

“It is not how much we do,
but how much love we put in the doing.
It is not how much we give,
but how much love we put in the giving.”

See the link below for more information on Mother Theresa.

https://www.biographyonline.net/nobelprize/mother_teresa.html

  

“Mary Cassatt (May 22, 1844-June 14, 1926) was an American artist best remembered for her paintings depicting the intimate bond between mothers and children. She was one of the leading artists of the Impressionist movement and along with Marie Bracquemond and Berthe Morisot, she is counted amongst the greatest female artists of her time.

For more information on Mary Cassatt, click the link below. 

https://www.thefamouspeople.com/profiles/mary-cassatt-6066.php

 

Joan of Arc (1412-1431) is a French heroine and Roman Catholic saint. Born in obscurity to a peasant family, she traveled to the uncrowned Dauphin of France, advising him to reclaim his French throne and defeat the English. Joan of Arc was sent alongside French troops to the siege of Orleans and rose to prominence after the siege was lifted after nine days. She was later captured and burned at the stake for heresy. However, as she predicted, seven years after her death, France was reunited with the English defeated and Charles crowned King.

Quote: “One life is all we have, and we live it as we believe in living it. But to sacrifice what you are and to live without belief, that is a fate more terrible than dying.”—Joan of Arc

For the rest of the story, please click the link below:

https://www.biographyonline.net/women/joan-of-arc.html

 

Oprah Winfrey–January 29, 1954–is an American media proprietor, talk show host, actress, producer, and philanthropist. She Overcame childhood abuse and rejection as a young woman to become one of the wealthiest women on the planet.  Oprah Winfrey was born in Kosciusko, Mississippi. Her parents were unmarried and separated soon after conception. Oprah had a difficult childhood. She lived in great poverty and often had to dress in potato sacks for which she was mocked at school. She was also sexually abused at an early age.

Oprah has proven to countless woman, and in particular black women worldwide, that it truly is not how you start out, but how you end. It truly is up to you.

Quotes:

Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.”

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”

 

“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.”

 

https://www.biographyonline.net/humanitarian/oprah-winfrey.html

 

In Closing: Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. I appreciate it!

  • If you haven’t already joined the Facebook group, you are missing a lot of great conversation, commiseration, and encouragement. There are women in there from all around the world who have found a great place to encourage and be encouraged! Come on in and join the conversation!
  • I am working on courses just for you. Right now, ’10 Days to Setting Kind but Firm Boundaries is available when you go to the website and click on the Courses tab. It costs just $29.97 to realize what it takes and how to create kind but firm boundaries.
  • Visit the website, explore, and don’t forget to visit the Resources tab where you can download free PDF content.  

 

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Episode 77—Merry Christmas Everyone!

Hello hello, hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Merry Christmas! And welcome back to another episode of Childless, not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

  • Thank you to my Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link for details and to become a Patron!)

 

https://www.patreon.com/21stcenturyhannah

 

  • Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

 

iTunes Reviews:

October 10, 2017, by Ateqers from the United Kingdom:

‘It is an excellent program, full of insightful comments and educational.’ 

Thank you Ateqers, hope I am pronouncing your name/handle correctly, for your comment and for your five-star review.  It is greatly appreciated! 

 

Many of you listen to this podcast on different platforms. Google Play Radio, Stitcher Radio, Apple Podcast, my website, just to name a few. But I am happy to announce that you may now listen on Spotify! How exciting right?

 

Well, I am so excited about today’s episode. I LOVE Christmas and to be able to post the final episode of the year on Christmas Day has me as excited as a kid in a candy store, literally!

So, let’s get started. I wanted to tell you about how the ladies in the Facebook group are doing, in their own words. I think it is fitting as we come to the end of 2017, that we look back at the growth: The growth of the women in the group and the growth of the platform! Here is the first post: 

Ladies who have found solace in the group:

  • Gaby–In one week, it will be the 4th anniversary of my 3rd miscarriage. Unfortunately, all my miscarriages have been during the holidays (Thanksgiving or Christmas). This time of year is always difficult – I’m sure for us all. I’m trying to focus on charity work for children in need. I also joined a mentor program for young girls who have few to no resources around them. While helping others may not replace having your own children, channeling the mourning and at times regret into something positive is hugely helpful. No specific reason to post other than to share with you all, my sisters on this challenging path. Thank you for being here.

I wanted to add that when I asked Gaby how she felt now at the end of the year compared to January, she said the following: “By the way, I feel about the same since January. Strong and grateful, with a side order of some fear and sadness. They are all collocated. Coming to the group has almost immediately taken away my feelings of being alone.”

I wanted to add that because I believed that would resonate with a lot of you.

  • Joanna (upon welcoming a new member to the group) ‘Hi —-, I joined at the weekend for the same reason. So grateful for the group and glad you found us too. I feel better for the support in just a few days. Just knowing that people understand.’ I also wanted to add a word of encouragement given to Joanna by a good friend of hers who has children:

 

  • Debbie—‘Tomorrow my niece gets married. In all honesty, besides excitement for her, my husband and I are sad by what we will never experience. I made a decision about 6 months ago that if I start to feel discouraged over something to reach out and be an encouragement to someone. So, yesterday I wrote a message to my sister-in-law and brother-in-law because I knew that even though this is an exciting time there has to be some emotion of “giving their daughter away.” She responded that the message was needed and timely. I know we all have an ache that most do not understand. I am learning to put myself in other’s shoes, reach out and be an encouragement and what do I find? It helps me to not fall into the ‘pit of despair.” The journey of life is hard enough. What do you do when you start to see yourself fall into discouragement over being childless not by choice?’

 

Aren’t those wonderful testimonials to the growth that can happen when we choose to push through our pain? These ladies are just awesome for choosing to share their growth and their pain, knowing that in doing so, you can be helped. If you are childless not by choice and you would like to join a group that cries, encourages, commiserates, and grows through pain; Childless not by Choice with Civilla Morgan is the place to be.

There is also the Childless not by Choice Supporters with Civilla Morgan Facebook group. So, come on in and join the conversation. There is a place for everyone!

Well, what a year this has been! I have witnessed the growth of the platform, engagement from the women in the group, wonderful words of thanks and encouragement for how this platform has helped them push through to a better place. 

I have a second Patreon contributor now. My heart is forever touched by the thoughtful gifts of beautiful 2018 calendars and chocolate covered Macadamia nuts from Janice. And the financial contribution for microphones from Susan! How cool was that?! Thank you, Janice and Susan!

I am loving this sense of community that has been created.  And I know it will only continue into 2018 and the years ahead. We are getting the word out that there is an entire demographic of women, and men, around the world, who exist and in some cases, hide in plain sight! Awareness is being created, and conversations are being had.       

Hearts are being healed, and relationships are being built or re-built! Those stories of healing and strengthened relationships are gifts to me, just as tangible as the ones I mentioned earlier.

I can’t wait to see how 2018 will witness more help and healing! I hope you will join us, and join the conversation!

  

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Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. It is appreciated!

 

Until next time! Bye!

Episode 76–The War on Fibroids, my Interview with Ms. Halona Black

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

  • Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link below for details and to become a Patron!)

 

 

  • Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

 

Intro: Well, we have a special guest! Ms. Halona Black is on a mission to help women realize how to fight the battle against fibroids. Halona says “I am not a physician or nurse. I’m an advocate for women’s wellness and guide women through making choices regarding their reproductive health through an integrative approach. That means that food and lifestyle are of the utmost importance. I do teach cooking classes.”

Welcome, Halona!

Questions:

  • What is your ‘why’, we hear that term a lot, but what put you on the journey to battle fibroids?

 

  • You say that ‘Herbal remedies are wonderful’, tell us more about them?  

 

  • Some years ago, after my hysterectomy, I went to a Natural Medicine MD for an issue other than my hysterectomy. I honestly cannot recall, may have been migraines. After a few visits I stopped going because, and the main reason was because after she read on my questionnaire that I had had a hysterectomy, she said several times that it was too bad I had not come to see her before my surgery, that I would not have had to have the surgery.

Hearing that more than once made me feel like so many negative things. Because the fact was, I had already had the hysterectomy and there was no turning back.

You say that ‘Living a happy life is important. It’s also important for women to know that even if they have lost their womb due to fibroids or other issues, it is still important for them to take care of their reproductive health.’  How exactly does a woman take care of her reproductive health if she no longer has a womb?

 

  • Some of the women in my group have had hysterectomies. Do you have any examples where someone was helped post-hysterectomy, and how?

 

  • Tell us about your 10-Day Detox book. It’s available on Amazon, is it available anywhere else?

 

  • Anything you did not get to discuss as we wrap up?

 

Halona’s contact information:

 http://GarlicAndLemonsLLC.com

http://www.GarlicAndLemonsMag.com.

 

Halona’s ebook is available on Amazon: Loving My Fibroids Away: A 10-Day Detox Plan Kindle Edition, $7.99

5-day ecourse on the website

hello@garlicandlemonsmag.com  to order the physical workbook, $37.00

PLEASE NOTE: As Ms. Black mentioned, she is not a clinician. Please see a licensed clinician for health-related issues and questions. Thank you.   

 

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice.

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Episode 75–30 Days of GRATITUDE

Hello hello, hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to another episode of Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world. 

I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

Thank my Patreon Contributors:

 

  • Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link in the show notes for details and to become a Patron!)

 

https://www.patreon.com/21stcenturyhannah

 

  • Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

 

 

Today’s episode is about Gratitude, ‘30 Days of GRATITUDE! To be exact!  

We did a Facebook Live at the end of October to kick off the 30 days of GRATITUDE event all November. To close out November, we will do a Facebook Live inside the group, on November 30th from 6:00pm-6:30 pm US EST.

If you are not in the group but would like to create a list, please do create your list of 30 items.  Use nice paper or a nice journal book, because I suggest you keep your list in a prominent place where you can remind yourself of those 30 things on a regular basis throughout 2018.

A couple of the ladies in the group sent me words of encouragement for you! Isn’t that nice? Here is the first one:

 

   The Other Me

I took a path I did not choose
Nor thought I’d ever take,
My dreams were of Prince Charming
And of the babies we would make.

But something really bad occurred
That destroyed those dreams so dear,
And who I would be without them
At first, was none too clear.

From the shattered fragments
Of my old dream I once had,
I saw a shining treasure,
And I wasn’t quite so sad.

So, I now pursue a new dream
Because I am an “Other.”
I have joy along the journey,
And I’m thankful for my mother. —Carol

 

This poem was written by Carol, one of the ladies in the Childless not by Choice with Civilla Morgan group. Thank you, Carol, for sharing your beautiful words with us. I am sure it touched many hearts!    

 

And here is the other item:

 

Hi Civilla,

I would like to share the 4 F’s:

Faith, Focus, Fortitude, and Follow-through:

Faith – in your spiritual being to nourish your soul and wellbeing.

Focus – on caring for your physical & emotional health.  Don’t be afraid to seek out professionals to help you (& partner) to cope. Learn new ways to cope!

Fortitude – Strengthen your heart with the love and support of those who love you, whenever you are feeling emotionally vulnerable.

Follow through – with courage in facing your future. Know you can (& WILL) find joy, love and laughter again.  Move on to live your best life!

This wonderful lady also said:

 “I am grateful for my husband, without his faithful love and support, I don’t know where my journey in life would have taken me. At this moment in time, there are so many things I am grateful for and I just don’t have just one.  I know the above 4 F’s is a lot of words, it’s more like me sharing to the women who are not at this level of joyous contentment (I am at now). Once upon a time (dark times) I was in their shoes!”

Aloha,

Janice

 

Thank you, Janice, for your wonderful words of encouragement!

 

Well, I won’t read you my entire GRATITUDE list, but I will read you three things from my list, here goes:

 

  • My Parents/family—I couldn’t do this without their love and support even when they did not fully understand my grief.

 

  • The ability to help others through the childless not by choice grieving process—Some tell me that creating this platform is a gift. If it is, it is my gift to you.

 

  •  The members of my childless not by choice platform/ growth of the platform—I am thankful for the trust you all have put on this platform. You have joined the Facebook groups, followed on Twitter, subscribed to the Newsletter. You have purchased the devotional, and most importantly, you have told me how much this platform has helped you. THANK YOU! I am thankful!

 

My word of encouragement for you:

Well, here in the US we just celebrated Thanksgiving, so we are right in the middle of the Holiday Season. I know many of you are dreading yet another holiday season of no children to buy gifts for, watching other people’s children dressed in cute festive outfits, and maybe even spending more time alone than you would like. In our Facebook Live on the 30th, we will be discussing 10 ways to navigate The Holidays as childless, not by choice women. I hope you can join us. One of the things I suggest is that you concentrate on helping others. In fact, I mention helping others in different ways throughout the list. Helping others is that important to calming our nerves and our psyche. When you are considering others, it is difficult to dwell on what did not happen for us. As I always say, it’s not that we are ignoring our feelings. Our feelings are valid. Our hearts hurt. We feel like second-class citizens who missed out. I get it. But still, I say, we have a choice as to how we will deal with it. We can sit idly by, and watch the Holidays from our living room window, or we can go out and find an organization that needs help distributing, giving, helping, or listening. It’s all about choice.

 

Well, after this episode, there are two more in 2017! I feel like I am doing a countdown. The next episode on December 11th, I will be talking to Ms. Halona Black as we discuss the war on fibroids! That is a great episode especially if you deal or dealt with fibroids. And even if you had to end up having a hysterectomy because of them, Halona has some great suggestions for self-care! I hope you will listen in!

 

Well, I don’t want to sign off without reminding you to come join the Childless not by choice with Civilla Morgan Facebook group if you are a woman who is childless not by choice. The group has grown by leaps and bounds, and it continues to grow. There are women in there from all around the world, all on the same journey as you and me, navigating life as childless, not by choice women. Come join the conversation. Don’t attempt to do this alone, or only with people who do not understand.

And remember, there is a Childless not by Choice Supporters group with Civilla Morgan for men who are childless not by choice and for everyone who is interested in the platform but may not fit the demographic. I will eventually get a childless not by choice men only group up and running, I will let you know when that happens. In the meantime, there are those two groups as well as the different Facebook pages available to everyone. So come on by! 

 

 

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Episode 74–End of year update 2017

Hello hello, hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to another episode of Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

  • Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link for details and to become a Patron!)

Click the link below to become my next Patreon Subscriber:

 

 

  •  Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

  

In this episode, I update you on the final episodes of 2017, and the first two episodes of 2018!  So much good stuff to look forward to!

 

November 13, 2017—End of year update episode

November 27, 2017—GRATITUDE, Thankfulness

December 11, 2017—The war against fibroids, my interview with Halona Black

December 25, 2017—Special Christmas episode! Final episode of 2017

  • 2017 was a long year in some respects, but it also seems like it flew by!
  • I am currently working on my 2018 goals, are you?
  • It is important for us to think and speak positively! At the beginning of 2017, I said I would concentrate on health, fitness, and nutrition, not knowing how and when I would do it. But I ended up having quite a few episodes/interviews on mental and physical health as well as nutrition. I even got to interview a real live bodybuilder! Everything came together just from my saying so. Be wise with your words!
  • We also had the opportunity to discuss how to deal with grief (the August episodes).
  • The November 27 episode will be all about GRATITUDE! Write one thing you are thankful for and by November 30th we will have 30 items, things we are thankful for!  
  • Our December 11 episode will be on nutrition as well as how to manage those crazy fibroids!
  • Our December 25 episode will be happening! It will be a special episode. Be on the lookout!
  • Our January episode will be a two-part episode that I believe is an encouraging way to get the new year started off on the right foot!    
  • Don’t forget to leave me a message from my website! Yes, go to the website, http://www.childlessnotbychoice.net. Look to the right and click on the tab that says ‘send voicemail’. It’s that easy!

 

Well, the group is growing. And I am so thankful! There are a lot of childless not by choice groups on Facebook now, so if you are having trouble finding us, just send me a message! I will point you in the right direction.

 

November makes three years since I started this platform from scratch! It’s been quite the journey! And I am looking forward to continued growth!  

 

  

Closing: Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. I appreciate it!

 

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Episode 73—Sixth Sense–The Demeanor of Loss

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

 

  • Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link for details and to become a Patron!)

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  •  Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

 Spirit and Demeanor

  • People can sense a spirit, or demeanor about us. They may not always realize what it is, they may not even realize they are sensing something; but they do sense that something may be off.
  • We take in and make a part of us, our spirit, what we have been through. It can be anything: abuse, childlessness, life not turning out as we expected.
  • We must make the decision to face what we have been through. When we face that monster, we can become stronger. We will become stronger.
  • We must decide that we want a better life for ourselves despite what we have been through.
  • When we make that decision, our demeanor will indeed change. People will recognize that change. Those people who knew us when we had that negative spirit or demeanor, will recognize that change.
  • People will realize they can trust us to babysit, or run a daycare center, or be a kindergarten teacher; because they recognize that we pushed through and came through the other side hurt but healed…or at least healing. We are stronger than even they could ever be.
  • There are people out there who want to tell us how to act or react, but the truth is, they could never survive what you or I have been through or dealt with. The bottom line is that you must want to heal. You must want it. And you know what, life is short. So, do you want it? Do you want mental, physical, emotional, spiritual healing, health, healthy relationships; or do you want to wallow in self-pity, sadness, depression? What do you want? Whatever it is you want, it will take work. It takes work to be mean and jealous. It takes work to get rid of those feelings. The thing is though, once you work and push through to the positive feelings, even when the sadness pops up from time to time, you will know what to do with it. You really will, because you want healthy and not hateful.     

 

Episodes mentioned in the podcast:

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-72-male-and-childless-not-by-choice-my-interview-with-dr-robin-hadley/

 

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-65-my-interview-with-mrs-maureen-hornstein/

 

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Until next time! Bye!

Episode 72–Male and childless not by choice, my interview with Dr. Robin Hadley

Hello everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life; although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

Before we get started:

Thank you’s:

  • Thank you for your FB re-shares and your Twitter comments and re-tweets. It is always appreciated.
  • Individual thank you’s if any:
  • Shout outs:
  • Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link below for details and to become a Patron!)

Click the link below to become my next Patreon Subscriber:

 https://www.patreon.com/21stcenturyhannah

 Current Patreon contributors:

  • Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

 

Well, today I have a special guest! This wonderful gentleman and I follow each other on Twitter. But one day I took a longer look at his Twitter profile and became intrigued with his platform. He talks about childlessness from a man’s point of view! Many of you recall there was a time when I did not consider the thought that men could have difficulty dealing with childlessness. I am so thankful for growth and for revelation!

Since I opened my mind to the fact that men can and do suffer whether emotionally or from society’s expectation, I have had the great opportunity to discuss childlessness from a man’s point of view a couple of times here on the podcast. And now I have the great opportunity to interview Dr. Robin Hadley. Let me tell you a little about him!     

Dr. Robin:

Was born in 1960 in a working-class area of Manchester (UK). He was the 7th of 8 children, 4 boys and 4 girls. Dr. Robin left school with only a few qualifications. But his wide-ranging careers have included such roles as counsellor, deputy technical manager, and scientific and technical photographer (28 years), kitchen assistant, and even bartender.

Dr. Robin’s training as a counsellor and his own experience of the desire for fatherhood, led him to research the subject of involuntarily childless men’s desire for fatherhood as research dissertation for his Master of Arts in Counselling, The University of Manchester.

He followed up with a self-funded Master of Science (again at The University of Manchester) exploring the levels of desire for parenthood (‘broodiness’) in females and males, parents and non-parents. He was a Social Gerontology PhD studentship at Keele University in 2010. And for his PhD study examined the experiences of involuntarily childless older men, and awarded his PhD in December 2015.

Post PhD, Dr. Robin has held a number of short term Research Associate posts on projects relating to ageing, dementia, technology, and fathers influence on infant feeding.

Welcome Dr. Robin!

*Please note that Dr. Robin’s contact information, along with links to his Theses are in the show notes.

Questions:

  • First, for our non-UK listeners, tell us exactly what ‘broodiness’ means. I believe the term may be used in a slightly different way here in America!

 

  • In our first meeting, I asked if you are childless not by choice and you advised you are. Was it due to circumstance or was it biological? I may seem nosey, but I know there are many men listening, and I want them to realize they are not alone.
  • In your research, you mentioned the biological clock. Did you find that men have biological clocks like women do, in a different way, or not at all?

 

  • In your thesis, you said: quote: ‘Research has mainly focussed on family and women, with the fertility intentions, history and experience, of older men being overlooked. Most nations do not collect the fertility history of men and consequently, it is impossible to judge the population level of childless men. Although involuntary childlessness has frequently only been associated with infertility treatment there is growing recognition that there is a latent population that is absent from research literature. ‘Have you seen any change in the two years since you wrote this?

 

  • In your PhD Thesis Summary where you mentioned the research of the 14 men aged 49-82, did you notice a trend of any type, aside from the ongoing grieving, was there anything that stood out or that surprised you about their responses? I am assuming grieving is ongoing?

 

  • Did you have the opportunity to teach these men anything that would help them cope with childlessness?
  • Is there a word of encouragement that you can share with the male listeners?

 

  • ‘Post PhD, you have held a number of short term Research Associate posts on projects relating to aging, dementia, technology, and fathers influence on infant feeding. Tell us more about this research, such as did you recognize an elevated level of dementia, or any other negative impact on the men you researched?

 

  • In closing, is there anything you would like to add, anything I missed? There was so much, and I found your thesis papers intriguing. So I am sure there was much more we could have discussed!

 

Dr. Robin’s contact information:

http://www.robinhadley.co.uk/index.shtml

 

Specialty areas include: men, masculinity, male childlessness and infertility, fatherhood, gender, aging, older men, impact of childlessness/infertility, family.

 

Dr. Robin’s Papers, Thesis and MSc Thesis:

http://bit.ly/2fg0RLc 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0By0paj_-gAAbbXVIR3drQjVGdGM/view?usp=sharing

 

Closing:

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. If you found value in this episode, or the podcast and platform in general, feel free to visit my Patreon site. See the link below. Patreon gives you the opportunity to schedule monthly contributions of any amount, to a platform for which you find value!

Please also feel free to visit iTunes now known as Apple Podcast, or just go to the website and subscribe to the podcast. It would be appreciated!

 

News stories and articles on childlessness…

http://www.vogue.co.uk/article/surrogacy-in-the-uk

 

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Episode 71–Most annoying thing someone has said about your childlessness

Podcast—Episode 71–The Most Annoying Thing You’ve Been told about being childless

Hello, everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life; although we could not, did not, have children we so wanted.

 

 Thank you’s:

  • Thank you for your FB re-shares and your Twitter comments and re-tweets. It is always appreciated.

 

Thank you to my Patreon Contributors: (Patreon contributors are those who have taken an interest in my platform whether they fit the childless not by choice demographic or not. They have decided to contribute a certain dollar amount on a regular basis to help fund my dream of creating awareness and conversation for the childless not by choice community globally. Click the Patreon link in the show notes for details.)

 My current Patreon Contributors:

  • Podcaster Sarah Williams of The Tough Girls Podcast
  • Jordan Morgan

 Put the link below in your browser and sign up to become my next Patreon Subscriber. Thank you!

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In this episode, I go to my Childless not by Choice Facebook group and ask the question, ‘what is the most annoying thing someone has said to you about being childless?’ back in April! A month before Mother’s Day in the USA. Aaaaah, the responses. Will they shock you? It depends on if you have been on the giving end or the receiving end. Let me know, I’m curious!

Oh, and I forgot to add another comment many of you should find hurtful. See below:

One lady said that she was told by someone to leave their children alone and go get her own.

I don’t know about you, but that is downright petty! If you have a comment you did not hear in the episode, send it to me and I will add it to my list. I’m thinking of updating this episode if I get more comments. Please only send in the comment if it happened directly to you.

 

Closing:

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. I appreciate it!

 

“I have decided NOT to live a life of hiding, fear, and apology, for prayers not answered.”—Civilla Morgan.

 

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Episode 70–Waiting Wombs Trust, My Interview with Founder Hadassa Trip

Hello everyone, Civilla Morgan here!

Welcome back to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life; although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

Remember to tell your friends about the show, and feel free to share and re-share to your social media followers! I would appreciate that!

Thank you’s:

  • Thank you for your FB re-shares and your Twitter comments and re-tweets. It is always appreciated.

 

  • Individual thank you’s:

 

  • Shout outs: Thank you to those who have purchased a copy of my devotional or taken the course, ’10 Days to Creating Kind but Firm Boundaries’. Every penny received goes right back into the platform.

 

  • Thank you to my Patreon Supporters! You all encourage me to keep on keeping on!

Money received is used for:

  • Monthly payment to my podcast distributor.
  • Monthly payments to my Podcast Producer.
  • Podcasting equipment such as microphones, headphones, paid recording software, etc.
  • Purchase and maintenance of a classroom for future online courses.
  • Website maintenance.

 

Hadassa says “I founded Waiting Wombs Trust, an organization that brings together couples, women, men who have walked the child waiting journey and succeeded on are still in wait. We also create awareness about childlessness.

We support such by sharing experiences, encouraging and waiting together.

We have also partnered with some doctors to help needy cases or just waiting wombs in general. Childless couples and mostly women go through a lot.”

 

Interview questions: 

  • Tell us why you chose the name Waiting Wombs project, tell us about the project.
  • Tell us about your Facebook Group. It’s a large group! Are most of the people from the continent, are they based in Kenya?
  • How do the men deal with the group, are they involved at all?
  • How long has the Waiting Womb project been in existence?
  • How do you encourage women and couples who are waiting?
  • Do you get the ‘why don’t you just adopt?’ question over there? And do you get unwanted commentary from strangers and family?
  • How do you overcome moments of sadness?

 

Hadassa’s Contact information:

 http://www.waitingwombstrust.org

hadassa@waitingwombstrust.org

Facebook: Waiting wombs (ww)

 

Closing:

Thank you for listening to this episode of Childless not by Choice. If you found value in this episode, or the podcast and platform in general, feel free to visit the donation jar on the website, stop by iTunes and leave me a rating and review, and of course tell a friend. 

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Episode 69–How to Live not just exist, after a crisis

Hello, everyone! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome back to Childless, not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant and fulfilled life, although we could not, did not, have the children we so wanted.

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Well, today I have a special guest, and I am so excited! You know how some people come into your life and you are just so happy they exist? That’s how I feel about this special young lady, she is just beautiful inside and out! Let me tell you a more about her before we get started:   

Valerie Zollinger is a Certified Professional Speaker, Best-Selling Author and Leader. Her unique blend of passion, authenticity and extensive understanding of human behavior results in enlightening and engaging presentations for audiences. She is known as the “Light Giver” for her great strength, compassion, and desire to spread a message of hope in the face of any challenge or adversity.

 

Valerie received her Bachelor’s and Master’s Degrees in Social Work from the University of Central Florida. She has ten years of experience working with people from diverse backgrounds in various settings including mental health, hospitals, and dialysis clinics. She has helped thousands of people make positive changes in their lives. Valerie prides herself on being a loving and accepting person. She has had a passion for writing and for helping others since she was a child.

 

Valerie is a successful business owner with Arbonne International and a team leader. She is the President of the Board for the Bereaved Survivors of Homicide, Inc., and a member of the Junior League of Greater Orlando. Her vision is a world where all people know and understand that a healthy, powerful body leads to a healthy, powerful life. Valerie’s mission is to inspire others to make the changes necessary in their lives to step into their greatness.

 

Welcome Valerie:

 

Let’s get started! You have done this talk several times, and I am honored that you are sharing it with us today!  I just know that the childless not by choice community will gain help and healing just by hearing your story, and by listening as you explain the five F’s to us today! I know I did!

  

Finance-

Faith-

Forgiveness-

Friends & Family-

Fitness-

 

In the episode, I mentioned a previous episode where I interviewed CFP Reshell Smith. Here is a link to that episode on finance for women around the world: 

 

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/childless-not-by-choice-reshell-smith-interview-finance-for-women-around-the-world/

 

 

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Valerie’s contact information:

Contact Valerie at Valerie@valeriezollinger.com or (407) 342-6481. Visit her websites: valeriezollinger.com and valeriesmith5.arbonne.com.

 

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