Episode 63–My interview with Fitness Coach/Bodybuilder Michael Echeverria

Episode 63—My Interview with Fitness Coach Michael Echeverria

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Today’s episode is an interview with Fitness Coach/Bodybuilder Michael Echeverria. You are in for some surprises on just how simple good nutrition and fitness really are. And you may find that the so-called Third-World countries may have better food options than we do in the Western world!

Don’t you just love Michael’s energy! It was a pleasure to speak with him. And I hope you learned as much as I did about fitness and about the right foods to put in our bodies. To learn more about Michael and his platform, Fitness by Design, see his contact information below. 

 

Michael’s contact info:

http://www.fitnessbyexample.com

(407) 529-4512

 

Here are some news stories of interest:

(I like to post stories I come across that pertain to the world of childless, not by choice):

http://micetimes.asia/to-make-money-not-kids/

 

http://www.breitbart.com/london/2017/05/09/election-macron-leaders-europes-top-four-economies-zero-children/

 

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/may/12/theresa-may-children-politics-women-gender

 

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Episode 62–Fibroids

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Hello! Civilla Morgan here! Welcome to Childless not by Choice, where my mission is to recognize and speak to the broken hearts of childless not by choice women, and men, around the world.  I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life although we could not have children.  Thank you for allowing me to sit with you a while!

 

Well, you heard correctly in the intro. I have made the decision after more than a year of ‘discussions’ with my podcast producer, to change the name of the podcast. The platform will still be called 21st Century Hannah, but for easier searchability, the podcast name has been changed. So welcome once again, to Childless not by Choice!

 

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“Thoughtful and informative. Civilla delivers valuable insights and resources for anybody affected by or interested in childlessness.”–Fotograffs, United Kingdom  (April 2017)

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I want to let you know up front, that parts of this episode may be graphic. If there are children around, you may end up answering a lot of questions!

I wondered why this episode might be more graphic than the other three in this series, and maybe it’s not. Maybe it’s just that it is being done through my lens of experience.

For some of you, PCOS was your story. For some, Endometriosis was your story. And for others, Miscarriage was your story. Well, Fibroids are my story.   

Let’s get started:

According to webmd.com,

A lot of women have uterine fibroids at some point in their life. You may have even had them and never known it. That’s because they often don’t cause any pain or symptoms.

Uterine fibroids, which your doctor may call leiomyomas or myomas, are muscular tumors that can grow on your uterus. They rarely turn into cancer, and if you get them it doesn’t mean you’re more likely to get uterine cancer.

Fibroids can vary a lot in size, shape, and location. They can show up in your uterus, uterine wall, or on its surface. They can also attach to your uterus by a stalk- or stem-like structure.

Some are so small that your doctor can’t even see them with the naked eye. Others grow in big masses that can affect the size and shape of the uterus.

Uterine fibroids usually appear in women of childbearing age — generally between 30 and 40 years old, but they can show up at any age. They’re also more common in African-American women than in white women and tend to show up earlier and grow quicker in African-Americans, as well. Doctors don’t know why that is.

 

According to Health Remedies Journal website,

Fibroids: Causes, Symptoms, and Treatments. Fibroids are non-cancerous (benign)tumors that grow from the muscle layers of the uterus (womb). They are also known as uterine fibroidsleiomyomas, or myomas. Fibroids are growths of smooth muscle and can vary from the size of a bean to as large as a melon. Aug 3, 2016

fibroids are lumps that can grow on the inside, outside or the wall of the uterus, 

Some symptoms include:

Excessive menstrual bleeding

Longer than usual menstruation–Overtime abnormally excessive bleeding may also lead to other potentially serious side effects.  (For me it was low iron, at times dangerously low. I spent many years taking the highest dose of non-prescription ferrous sulfate, and even had iv iron on one or two occasions. It was so many years my body had gotten used to living with very low iron.)

Fullness in lower abdomen

( my note: I don’t remember feeling full, but I did feel pressure on my bladder. It was very scary feeling the pressure of needing to go to the bathroom but not being able to go. The scariest moment of that happening for me was just before surgery number two.)

Pelvic or lower back pain

‘As fibroids grow in size, they can apply extra pressure on the neighboring organs and cause unwarranted pain in the pelvic area. The pain may also radiate to the lower back and some women may also feel the pain extending into their legs.’

 

(I had the back pain and always sat with a support pillow behind my lower back. I was so fortunate to have a vehicle with lumbar support for many years. It’s amazing the small things that we can tend to take for granted until we don’t, right?)

 

Frequent urination

 

Loss of bladder control

 

 

Constipation

The constant pressure in the pelvic region can also lead to constipation, bloating and even diarrhea for some. For instance, when the fibroid growth is located towards the back, pressure applied to the rectum can cause constipation.

(My note: At first, I was like constipation? Really? But the explanation makes sense. That earlier explanation re: affected organs right?

 

Reproductive problems–Fibroids that develop in the cavity of the uterus may cause infertility by preventing implantation. Fibroids may also block the fallopian tubes causing problems in conceiving. In these cases, blockage of the fallopian tube caused by fibroids does not permit the embryo to enter into the cavity of the uterus.

 

Abdominal swelling

Depending on the size and number of fibroids present, the condition can occasionally cause the uterus to grow to the size of a five month pregnancy. This symptom can be observed as an enlarged belly or swelling in the abdomen.

(Yes, I remember wearing my shirts and blouses out and long. I used to feel so embarrassed!)

 

Anemia

The heavy bleeding experienced with fibroids can sometimes cause a woman to become anemic. With heavy menstrual bleeding persisting overtime, the body may not be able to make new blood cells fast enough to replace those that have been lost.

In such instances, some women with fibroids may need to take iron pills to compensate for the loss of blood. At the same time, anemia may also result in fatigue, weakness, fuzzy thinking and moderate to severe light-headedness.

(So yeah, basically what I mentioned earlier.)

  

http://healthremediesjournal.com/11-symptoms-of-fibroids/?utm_campaign=fibroidsymptoms&gclid=CK7nq8WKrdMCFQsQgQodmesI7g

 

http://www.webmd.com/women/uterine-fibroids/

 

 

Articles of note:

https://www.statnews.com/2017/03/27/parents-having-children-live-longer/

 

https://www.rte.ie/entertainment/2017/0325/862542-dawn-oporter/

 

 

 

Until next time! Bye!

 

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Childless not by Choice? Fight The Urge!

It can sometimes be difficult to watch others so easily get what you have begged, prayed, even bargained with God for.  Negative thoughts and feelings can start to creep in, and start to overstay their welcome.  And before you know it, the wrong comment at the wrong time could create an unwanted firestorm!

Allowing negative thoughts and feelings such as jealousy, envy, bitterness, and even hate; can create an emptiness inside.  Life is too short to allow this negativity to live inside you.

 Good news! You have all the control within you to fight those thoughts and feelings. You must fight them! But please know it boils down to choice. To live your best, most relevant and joyful life, you have to choose to deal with and manage your emotions and feelings.

These feelings are real. Every emotion and feeling is real. There have been many moments in my life when I had to fight back the tears. But I did not get envious or jealous. I never wanted what the other person had, I just wanted what I thought I deserved.  What I did do was to question God a lot. ‘Why not me?’ ‘What did I do to deserve this childlessness?’ ‘What is so wrong with wanting a child?’ ‘Why was it so difficult for my prayers to be answered?’

I finally decided that entertaining negative emotions and feelings would not help in the long run. I realized that having children is something that is typically taken for granted. But I could not allow how easily children came to others, to affect my heart and my mind. I had to choose.   

Choose instead, to entertain good, positive, self-affirming thoughts instead of the negative ones.  Choose instead to manage your thoughts and feelings. Choose instead, to think about the good in your life although you did not get the children you wanted. Life did not work out the way you expected, but there is some amount of good happening for you. If there isn’t, create it! You have the power to do so!

Creating and living your best, most joyful life is your role. No one else can do that for you. Observing or envying the life of another woman is not healthy or good.  And you do not need to live a negative, subpar life. Fight the negativity. Choose life.

Episode 61–Alternative Nutrition

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Thank you for visiting another episode of 21st Century Hannah! I appreciate your taking the time to listen in once again. Thank you to my repeat listeners. And if you are listening for the first time, I hope you will come back for another visit!  Remember to tell your friends about the show, and feel free to share to your social media followers! I would appreciate that!

                

  • Well, this is a short episode. We are right in the middle of a mini-series where I am devoting an entire episode each, to the four most familiar infertility disease states; at least what I believe are the most familiar: PCOS, Endometriosis, Miscarriage, and Fibroids.

 

  • We just did the Miscarriage episode, and the final episode in this mini-series will be on Fibroids. But I wanted to stop by with this mini-episode to talk about all the different types of nutritional supplementations that are out there right now.

 

  • The buzz lately has been about gluten free, organic, essential oils, healthy shakes, and smoothies, etc. I will admit I have tried many of these things, and in fact, I do continue to use some things on this list. And while I am not here to sponsor or support any one product, I will say that the healthier we can eat, the better we can treat out bodies, of course, the better we will feel physically.

 

  • As you search for what works for you, be aware of triggers. There are mental and emotional triggers, and there are food triggers. Don’t ignore the triggers.   

 

  • The fact is, as childless not by choice people, we are already feeling a certain way emotionally, mentally, physically; and maybe even spiritually. Opt not add bad eating to that list. The key to living positively in this space is to do our best in each area of our lives.

 

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Miscarriage–Episode 60:

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Welcome to episode 60—Miscarriage

As I did my research for this episode, I started wondering which of these four issues that I discuss in my miniseries of the four most recognized infertility issues is the worst: PCOS, Endometriosis, Miscarriage, or Fibroids.

I mean what’s worst, not being able to get pregnant, or getting pregnant, knowing there is a human being inside you; and then not?

I have my opinion on that, but I will let you decide without my thoughts and opinions coloring the issues.

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I started my research with statistics because I continue to be intrigued by the high number of miscarriages that take place per number of pregnancies. I believe the reason is because I am thinking of the advances in medicine, i.e. we are in the 21st Century! Shouldn’t things be a lot better than they were in say the 1800’s, even 100 years ago?

But as I continued to research, I realized it was not necessarily about the advances in medicine, but more the imperfections of us, we humans. Our bodies are amazing, from head to toe. But one of the awesome things that our bodies will do and that would create negative emotions is to reject an organism it believes to be foreign. In the case of a miscarriage, that foreign organism may be an embryo with damaged chromosomes. See the full story at http://www.verywell.com where they say in part that ‘Laboratory studies on IVF patients have found that a very large percentage of eggs harbor chromosome abnormalities (the leading cause of miscarriage)…’      

 

My immediate thought was that miscarriage that happens very early in a pregnancy, and the miscarriage that happens later in a pregnancy may result in two different emotional events. Maybe? Tell me what you think. I mean if there is a miscarriage at a chromosomal level, is it different, dare I say easier to deal with than a miscarriage at three or four months?     

 

The statistics per my research on the Very Well website:

The biggest miscarriage risk factor is a mother’s age.

According to the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecologists, the number of miscarriages in the first trimester for women increases dramatically as a woman ages. Here are the statistics showing this rise:

  • age 20 to 30 years: 9 to 17 percent miscarriage rate
  • age 35 years: 20 percent miscarriage rate
  • age 40 years: 40 percent miscarriage rate
  • age 45 years: 80 percent miscarriage rate

 

Bottom line, generally speaking, and you can go back to my episode where I interview Dr. Shari-ann James, 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in miscarriage. 

 

Links to previous episodes mentioned in this episode:

Dr. Emine Cay Masters

Dr. Shari-ann James

 

Research sites:

https://www.verywell.com/making-sense-of-miscarriage-statistics-2371721

 

https://search.cdc.gov/search?query=miscarriage&utf8=%E2%9C%93&affiliate=cdc-main

 

 

Podcast episodes mentioned in this episode:

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/mental-health-in-the-childless-not-by-choice-community-my-interview-with-psychologist-dr-shari-ann-james/

 

http://childlessnotbychoice.net/menopause-infertility-childlessness-my-interview-with-dr-emine-cay-masters/

 

 

News stories and articles of note:

https://infertilemidnightbaker.wordpress.com/2017/03/25/an-open-letter-to-my-fertile-friends/amp/

   

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Episode 59–Endometriosis

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Episode 59—Endometriosis

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WELCOME BACK TO 21ST CENTURY HANNAH, WHERE MY MISSION IS TO RECOGNIZE AND SPEAK TO THE BROKEN HEARTS OF CHILDLESS NOT BY CHOICE WOMEN, AND MEN, AROUND THE WORLD.  I AM SPREADING THE GREAT NEWS THAT WE CAN LIVE A JOYFUL AND RELEVANT LIFE REGARDLESS OF THE FACT THAT WE COULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN.

Well, I appreciate your taking the time to listen in once again. Thank you to my repeat listeners. And if you are listening for the first time, I hope you will come back for another visit!

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Well, today’s episode is all about Endometriosis.

Endometriosis (en-doe-me-tree-O-sis) is an often painful disorder in which tissue that normally lines the inside of your uterus — the endometrium — grows outside your uterus. Endometriosis most commonly involves your ovaries, fallopian tubes, and the tissue lining your pelvis. Rarely, endometrial tissue may spread beyond pelvic organs.

With endometriosis, displaced endometrial tissue continues to act as it normally would — it thickens, breaks down and bleeds with each menstrual cycle. Because this displaced tissue has no way to exit your body, it becomes trapped. When endometriosis involves the ovaries, cysts called endometriomas may form. Surrounding tissue can become irritated, eventually developing scar tissue and adhesions — abnormal bands of fibrous tissue that can cause pelvic tissues and organs to stick to each other.

Endometriosis can cause pain — sometimes severe — especially during your period. Fertility problems also may develop. Surprise: Fortunately, effective treatments are available.  I did not realize that effective treatments were available. I honestly thought there was no effective treatment for Endometriosis.    

Some things that surprised me:

  • The severity of your pain isn’t necessarily a reliable indicator of the extent of the condition. Some women with mild endometriosis have intense pain, while others with advanced endometriosis may have little pain or even no pain at all.
  • Endometriosis is sometimes mistaken for other conditions that can cause pelvic pain, such as pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) or ovarian cysts. It may be confused with irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), a condition that causes bouts of diarrhea, constipation and abdominal cramping. IBS can accompany endometriosis, which can complicate the diagnosis.

It’s really important to get a second opinion especially if you’re just not feeling that the diagnosis is correct. I truly believe, and I have said it before, no one knows your body better than you do. If you are not convinced about a diagnosis, get a second opinion. 

  

Causes:

Although the exact cause of endometriosis is not certain, possible explanations include:

Retrograde menstruation. 

Transformation of peritoneal cells. 

Embryonic cell transformation. 

Surgical scar implantation. 

Endometrial cells transport. 

Immune system disorder. 

For additional details on each of these causes, see the Mayo Clinic article link in the show notes below.

As I continued my research, I went next to the Hopkins Medicine site, link in the show notes, and found the following risk factors that could cause an increased possibility for a woman to have endometriosis:

Risk Factors of Endometriosis

They say that…

While any woman may develop endometriosis, the following women seem to be at an increased risk for the disease:

  • Women who have a first-degree relative (mother, sister, daughter) with the disease
  • Women who are giving birth for the first time after age 30
  • White women
  • Women with an abnormal uterus

 

Now the following information was of particular interest to me, and I am sure to those who have been diagnosed with Endometriosis:

Relationship of Endometriosis to Infertility:

 

Endometriosis is considered one of the three major causes of female infertility. According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, endometriosis can be found in 24 to 50 percent of women who experience infertility.

In mild to moderate cases, the infertility may be temporary. In these cases, surgery to remove adhesions, cysts and scar tissue can restore fertility. In other cases — a very small percentage — women may remain infertile.

(Hmmmm, kinda sounds like when they told me after one of my first myomectomies, ‘OK, we removed the fibroids, now go out and get pregnant before they grow back.’ Um, OK.

Anyway…

How endometriosis affects fertility is not clearly understood. It is thought that scar tissue from endometriosis can impair the release of the egg from the ovary and subsequent pickup by the fallopian tube. Other mechanisms thought to affect fertility include changes in the pelvic environment that results in impaired implantation of the fertilized egg.

For additional information and ways to ease the pain, visit the link: Hopkins Medicine link below.

Another site you may find helpful is the ACOG, American Congress of Obstetrics and Gynecologists. It’s a site that seems to be regularly updated with educational material and workshops. Check it out!

So I love statistics because they tell a story in numbers. Yes, numbers can be skewed by human mistakes, i.e. mis-count, etc. But numbers, statistics, are the best we have at coming close to perfection.

So, according to additional research:

  • Endometriosis can first occur when girls first get their period.
  • Endometriosis affects176 million women worldwide, and 1 in 10 girls and women in the US.
  • Endometriosis usually causes symptoms during reproductive years (~12-60 years old), however many women and girls are undiagnosed.

The following additional statistics are from the CDC—centers for disease control website:

Because some women might have endometriosis, but do not have symptoms, it is difficult to know exactly how many women have the condition. Current estimates suggest that 6% to 10% of women of reproductive age have endometriosis,1,2 or approximately 5 million women in the United States.

In 2011, the NICHD-led Endometriosis: Natural History, Diagnosis, and Outcomes study found that 11% of a group of women with no symptoms of endometriosis actually had the disorder. If this finding applies to all the women in the United States, the number of American women with endometriosis may well exceed previous estimates of 5 million.

Endometriosis is most common in women in their 30s and 40s,3 but it can affect any female who menstruates.

 

 Information from the following links were used at least in part for my research: 

 

http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/endometriosis/home/ovc-20236421

 

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/healthlibrary/conditions/gynecological_health/endometriosis_85,P00573/

 

http://www.acog.org/

 

https://www.cdc.gov/

 

https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/womensrh/healthconcerns.html

 

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/healthlibrary/conditions/gynecological_health/endometriosis_85,P00573/

 

Stories of interest from around the world:  

 

http://www.graphic.com.gh/news/general-news/don-t-ridicule-childless-women.html

 

http://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/what-not-to-say-to-couples-who-don-t-have-children-1.3018634

 

https://www.rte.ie/entertainment/2017/0325/862542-dawn-oporter/

 

 

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“When someone tells you to just forget about it, ask them what they have forgotten.”—Civilla Morgan

 

Thanks for visiting! Until next time, bye! 

Elderly and childless, are you ready?

As I podcast about the childless not by choice demographic, I have set up news and article alerts on stories about childlessness.

But as I get older, I’ve been thinking about how my elder years will look. Sometimes it is at the forefront of my thoughts, sometimes it is in the back of my mind. Either way, it’s on my mind constantly. Not in a negative, over powering, or dreaded way; but more like a low, just audible hum. I wonder if I will be properly taken care of by strangers if I must enter a long-term care or elder care facility. What if my mind goes and I am at the will and whim of strangers?

Those are valid thoughts and fears, aren’t they? I interviewed Reshell Smith, a financial services advisor to discuss finances for the childless not by choice woman around the world. Click here to listen to our interview: Global Finance for Women

I am constantly thinking about the childless not by choice woman, at all ages and stages of her life. I am regularly asked what age group I have in mind when dealing with the childless not by choice demographic. It’s all ages. From the time a woman finds out she cannot have children, into her elder years. I don’t believe a woman ever heals from the hurt of childlessness. In fact, I am noticing more (affluent) women in their 40’s and 50’s, adopting or surrogating babies. Hoda Kotb, Janet Jackson, and Tyra Banks; to name a few.

But those of us who were just not able to have children or to adopt, must have a plan. The plan can and should range from having a solid financial plan which includes but is not limited to the following: a life insurance policy or enough saved to bury yourself and pay off your debts. Purchase a long-term care insurance plan. Having an idea of where you would like to live as you age. There are assisted living facilities where you still have some autonomy, but there is staff on hand if you need assistance. Then as you get older, a full-fledged nursing home. You cannot wait until you are so advanced in age to purchase insurance, that insurance would be unaffordable or unattainable. Human nature tends to make us ignore the fact that if we live long enough, we will become elderly. The plans we need should have been obtained when they were affordable because we were young, so that we could implement them when we became elderly people.

But you remember when you were young don’t you? You thought you would be young forever. You probably even thought you were invincible. I know I did! And now I look ahead, reminding my Podcast listeners and my blog readers, to plan; hoping we make it to our end with our dignity intact. All while not having even one child to at least in part rely upon.
And what of women and men in countries where there is not even the minimal governmental plan, i.e. social security? If you live in a country where at least social security exists, you have the opportunity for some semblance of a plan. Remember the elderly who live in countries where elder assistance does not exist, when you think you are too broke to have a plan.

And yes, even those with children, have no guarantee that any one of them would spare, create, or have the time to help them. Children are not a retirement plan, at least not in the Western world. Have a plan.

Episode 58-PCOS, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome

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Welcome to episode 58!

Thank you for visiting another episode of 21st Century Hannah! I appreciate your taking the time to listen in once again. Thank you to my repeat listeners. And if you are listening for the first time, I hope you will come back for another visit!

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About PCOS

I knew nothing about PCOS—polycystic ovarian syndrome, until I started researching the illness.  It saddened and surprised me as I read the symptoms and the manifestations of the disease.  Many of you are boldly living your lives as you battle the disease, and I am proud of you for not giving into it! 

So one of my first questions as I researched PCOS, was just how many women have this disease? And I found that according to a 2015 article that was updated in 2016, Huffington Post article written by Heather Huhman, ‘Between five to 10 percent of women of childbearing age in the United States, or roughly 5 million, have PCOS. That percentage makes it one of the most common hormonal endocrine disorders in women. What’s more, it also makes it the most common cause of female infertility.’

According to a Science Weekly article, 1 in 15 women worldwide suffer from PCOS.

And what’s more, apparently the medical community still does not know much about the disease!

What are the symptoms?

  • Acne
  • Weight gain/trouble losing weight
  • Extra body hair
  • Irregular periods
  • And of course, trouble getting pregnant

Those are just some of the symptoms.  As with any of the other issues that cause childlessness, or trouble having children, all you can really do is what is in your power to do.  That means eating the right foods and watching your weight as much as possible.

How does nutrition play a part?

So of course because nutrition is on the forefront for the podcast this year, I had to check out what the best foods are for women suffering from PCOS. I wasn’t surprised, and you probably won’t be either: High fiber foods, anti-inflammatory foods, and lean protein. Limit the processed carbohydrates. No surprise, right? I know it’s probably easier said than done especially if you live in a place where it’s hard to get to these types of foods, but please try your best. I know you will feel better.          

As usual, you know your body best. If you are just not feeling right regardless of what your physician says or prescribes, it is OK to do your own research, to exercise proper nutrition, and remain positive. I know, we have our up days and our down days in this world called childless not by choice, but overall, we have got to encourage ourselves. And for those of you who are still holding out hope. It’s OK to do so. There is a percentage of women who suffer from PCOS, who ended up having children. If you suffer from PCOS and you and your doctor are still hopeful, I will hope along with you! Hang in there!

 

Additional information and links based on PCOS:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/heather-huhman/frustrating-facts-about-pcos_b_7686030.html

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/08/070831204314.htm

http://www.webmd.com/women/tc/polycystic-ovary-syndrome-pcos-topic-overview#1

http://www.webmd.com/women/features/pcos-polycistic-ovary-syndrome-women#1

http://www.healthline.com/health/pcos-diet?s_con_rec=true&r=1#Overview1

 

Stories of interest:

https://www.romper.com/p/people-feel-moral-outrage-toward-those-who-choose-not-to-have-children-study-finds-41800

 

https://www.pakistantribe.com/54929/fighting-infertility-eat-walnut-day-keeps-childlessness-away

 

http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2017/02/21/nigerian-woman-seeks-divorce-over-childlessness

 

 

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Episode 57 Men, Men, Men, Men!

Hello, everyone!

Thank you for visiting another episode of 21st Century Hannah! I appreciate your taking the time to listen in once again. Thank you to my repeat listeners. And if you are listening for the first time, I hope you will come back for another visit!

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So I was watching a TV show the other night, and in one of the story lines, the couple was having fertility problems. They decided to visit a new doctor for alternative help in getting pregnant. The doctor asked the woman to have labs done. He then turned to the husband and advised him he would have to provide a semen sample. The husband’s response: ‘why?’ 

Do I need to say how imperative it will be to have men on board? They must be included in the conversation to help bring and contribute to the issues of the childless not by choice dynamic globally. Men are typically heads of households around the world, and they must realize many things.

They must be aware of the fact that proper nutrition is important, that childlessness is not always the woman’s ‘fault’, and that there is no shame in going to the doctor as a couple. I know this will be easier said than done in many cultures. Even the so-called Western countries. Remember that TV show I mentioned earlier? That is an up to date television show that airs here in the United States.

I will not pretend to understand the things men have to deal with when interacting with each other and with the world. It must be so difficult sometimes to maneuver the male ego, the interaction with friends, especially those who have children. Men may indeed have the same issues of not producing as women do, but maybe in a slightly different way.       

  • Any men out there who are childless not by choice, any male fertility MD’s?
  • Men, you are an integral part, not only physically, but emotionally.

“A life unlived is no more a life than a picture of a river is a river”–Farzad Khosrownia

  • Shout out to regular listener Elaine S. of Canberra, Australia.
  • Shout out to regular listener Mimi, Orlando, FL, USA.

 

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 The link below is for a non-mom summit coming up in October: 

http://www.digitaljournal.com/pr/3226674  

The link below is yet another example of how childless women are disrespected: 

http://www.news.com.au/finance/work/leaders/no-need-to-question-new-premier-gladys-berejiklians-child-status/news-story/46bb09d47573922d7b313effd5086912

http://www.upworthy.com/kim-cattralls-poignant-spot-on-response-to-those-still-asking-why-she-doesnt-have-kids?c=ufb4

Well! What do you think about the story below?!

http://thenationonlineng.net/childless-couples-free-treatment/

 

What do you think about this?!  The lengths to which a woman would go not to be childless! 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CLkLbOvmvrw 

Childless in the 21st Century

Childlessness around the world

Creating awareness for the childless not by choice demographic on a global level includes bringing knowledge, understanding, and empathy. I naively thought if a woman is simply a woman, she would clearly understand the plight of the childless not by choice woman. Unfortunately, this is not always the case.

Yes, many women are empathetic to the pain, and that is wonderful. But many more are being brought to the realization that there is more to the story of a woman’s childlessness, than what is seen or assumed. To create an open and continual conversation and to educate, I have made the decision not to hear or respond from a place of offense or defense. Doing so might only end a conversation without real resolution.

women global thumbnailsAt the risk of offending, my personal jury is still out on many of the women who say they chose or opted not to have children. They are childless BY choice. I recognize there are millions of women around the globe who truly came to the realization that bearing, raising, and pouring into a child was just not for them. I get that, and I respect that decision. Alas, I cannot help but feel there are many childless by choice women who made that decision out of fear of past experiences. And some may argue that is a valid factor. At any rate, a decision is a decision regardless of how it is arrived. And I believe every child that makes it through the birth canal should have a chance at dignity, love, and respect.

I did not realize the journey to bringing awareness would be so difficult; at times filled with nuances of understanding, misunderstanding, and new-found empathy. We are all truly on a journey to understanding, and I cannot wait to see how society is changed for the better.

My mission will not be easy, and it will not be simple.  I must carefully wade through differing cultural norms. I must ask men to take part in the conversation.  I must ask women who are childless not by choice to come out and talk. All while providing solutions, de-stigmatizing the issues surrounding childlessness, and educating. Globally.

children around the worldI also feel that another part of my life’s mission is to bring two groups of people together: the childless not by choice, and the abandoned/disadvantaged child. I mean it only makes sense, right? Yes, I know, nuances. But that’s where my reliance on my naïveté comes in. I have built a healthy respect for naïveté over the past couple of years. And I now use two words in the same sentence I never thought any intelligent human would: naïveté and common sense. Why not? Stranger things have happened.

Join me, won’t you? Show up however you can. Join the conversation. Help me spread the word. Don’t be offended. Look at the big picture with me. One day, the topic of childless not by choice will be a part of regular every day conversation. There will be no more stigma and shame, just conversation and empathy.